Suicide Information

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Suicide is NOT a crime

by Kevin Caruso
The vast majority of suicides occur because of mental illness. And the number one cause for suicide is untreated depression.

So why do some people STILL refer to suicide as a crime?

And why is the term “Committed Suicide” still the most common term to describe suicide?
Answer: Ignorance.

Murder is a crime.

Rape is a crime.

Robbery is a crime.

Suicide is NOT a crime.
And for the few that still maintain the idiotic idea that suicide is a crime, this is your wake up call: You are part of the problem, and not part of the solution. Your woefully outdated mindset is the ultimate manifestation of ignorance.

And ignorance is rife in the field of suicide; so, unfortunately, you have quite a bit of company.

Let’s examine INTENT for a moment, which is always of paramount importance when investigating a "crime."

What is the intent of suicide?
To harm others?
No.
Enough said.

Criminals INTEND to harm others with their criminal acts.

So stop criminalizing an act that occurs because people are mentally ill.

People who die by suicide NEVER intend harm. They are trying to end their pain, and their thinking is VERY distorted because of their mental illness.

They die by suicide because they feel they do not have any other option.

And someone who is mentally ill and passes away deserves great compassion – not criminalization.

And the loved ones of those who die by suicide deserve respect, love, and honor – not stigma.
Knock it off.

Suicide is NOT a crime.
It never has been. And it never will be.

All of the people in Heaven who died by suicide are angels – NOT criminals.

God bless them all. We love them all. We honor them all.

And God bless their angels on earth – suicide survivors.

We love them all. We honor them all.

They are heroes – NOT criminals.


http://suicide.org/suicide-is-not-a-crime.html

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Suicide Warning Signs:



Appearing depressed or sad most of the time.
(Untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide.)
Feeling hopeless.
Expressing hopelessness.
Withdrawing from family and friends.
Sleeping too much or too little.
Feeling tired most of the time.
Gaining or losing a significant amount of weight.
Making statements such as these:

"I can't go on any longer."
"I hate this life."
"There's no point to this stupid life."
"Everyone would be better off without me."
"Life is not worth living."
"Nothing matters anymore."
"I don't care about anything anymore."
"I want to die."
--And any mention of suicide--


Writing notes or poems about suicide or death.
Acting compulsively.
Losing interest in most activities.
Giving away prized possessions.
Writing a will.
No sense of humor.
Facing a perceived "humiliating" situation.
Facing a perceived "failure."
Feeling excessive guilt or shame.
Acting irrationally.
Being preoccupied with death or dying.
Behaving recklessly.
Irritability
Frequently complaining about headaches, stomachaches, etc.
Neglecting personal appearance.
A dramatic change in personal appearance.
A dramatic change in personality.
Performing poorly at work or in school.
Abusing alcohol or drugs.
Inability to concentrate.

It should be noted that some people who die by suicide do not show any suicide warning signs. Many people hide their depression because there is still a strong social stigma against mental illness. Also, many people believe that they will be perceived as weak, so they also hide their depression.

But most people do show suicide warning signs, so we need to be aware of what the suicide warning signs are, and try to spot them in people. If we do see someone exhibiting suicide warning signs, we need to do everything that we can to help them.

If you or someone you know exhibits several of the suicide warning signs listed above, immediate action is required;

Always take suicide warning signs seriously.

http://suicide.org/suicide-warning-signs.html

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Suicide Causes

by Kevin Caruso
Over 90 percent of people who die by suicide have a mental illness at the time of their death.

And the most common mental illness is depression.

Untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide.

Untreated mental illness (including depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and others) is the cause for the vast majority of suicides.
Also, some people are genetically predisposed to depression, and thus they may not appear to be undergoing any negative life experiences, yet still become depressed, and may die by suicide.

So, some people die by suicide because of a depression that was caused by genetics. You probably have heard about some indivuduals who died by suicide and did not exhibit any symptoms or appear to have any serious problems. In these cases, it is possible that the person had depression that occured because of this genetic factor.

It is very rare that someone dies by suicide because of one cause. Thus, there are usually several causes, and not just one, for suicide.

Many people die by suicide because depression is triggered by several negative life experiences, and the person does not receive treatment – or does not receive effective treatment – for the depression. (Some people need to go through several treatments until they find one that works for them.)

Some of the negative life experiences that may cause depression, and some other causes for depression, include:


The death of a loved one.
A divorce, separation, or breakup of a relationship.
Losing custody of children, or feeling that a child custody decision is not fair.
A serious loss, such as a loss of a job, house, or money.
A serious illness.
A terminal illness.
A serious accident.
Chronic physical pain.
Intense emotional pain.
Loss of hope.
Being victimized (domestic violence, rape, assault, etc).
A loved one being victimized (child murder, child molestation, kidnapping, murder, rape, assault, etc.).
Physical abuse.
Verbal abuse.
Sexual abuse.
Unresolved abuse (of any kind) from the past.
Feeling "trapped" in a situation perceived as negative.
Feeling that things will never "get better."
Feeling helpless.
Serious legal problems, such as criminal prosecution or incarceration.
Feeling "taken advantage of."
Inability to deal with a perceived "humiliating" situation.
Inability to deal with a perceived "failure."
Alcohol abuse.
Drug abuse.
A feeling of not being accepted by family, friends, or society.
A horrible disappointment.
Feeling like one has not lived up to his or her high expectations or those of another.
Bullying. (Adults, as well as children, can be bullied.)
Low self-esteem.

Again, the above causes may trigger depression, and untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide.

Know what the symptoms of depression are – and if you or someone you know is depressed, get help immediately. (see next post for Depression information)

And remember that any untreated mental illness, including depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and others, may cause suicide.



http://suicide.org/suicide-causes.html

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Depression and Suicide

by Kevin Caruso

Untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide.

You are not depressed when you feel sad for a day or two; you are depressed when you experience a prolonged period of sadness that interferes with your ability to function. Depression occurs because of an imbalance of chemicals in the brain. It is an illness. And it is highly treatable.

Unfortunately, many people do not receive treatment for depression, and thus are at risk for suicide.

If you or have some of these symptoms below, please seek help immediately:


Feeling sad for two or more weeks
Feeling lethargic -- feeling like you have no energy
Unable to concentrate
Sleeping too much or too little
Eating too much or too little
Feeling worthless
Feeling hopeless
Feeling helpless
Feeling negative or pessimisstic
Losing interest in activities that you previously enjoyed
Crying frequently
Withdrawing from others
Neglecting personal appearance
Feeling angry
Feeling guilty
Unable to think clearly
Unable to make decisions

Basically, if "the blues" do not go away after two weeks, you probably have depression. And you need to get treatment. So please make an appointment with a medical doctor and a therapist so you may be properly evaluated. Many people do not think of going to a medical doctor when they are depressed, but it is an important step because there could be a physical problem beside the chemical imbalance that is causing the depression. And please get into therapy. If the therapist believes that you need medication he or she can refer you to someone.

Get help now.

Get treatment now.

Many people who have depression do not get help. So please, do the right thing and make those appointments.

Again, you may need to take medication. So, please leave that option open. People take medication all of the time for a variety of ailments, why should taking medication for depression be any different?

And please understand that when you are depressed that you affect the people around you. So get help for your loved ones as well as yourself. If you need to take medication, then you should do so. You can ask the doctor and therapist all of the questions that you can think of. And you can do your own research. You can seek a second and even a third opinion. But the bottom line is that you need to do what is necessary to get better.

You might believe that you could never become suicidal, but protracted, untreated depression will make almost anyone suicidal, including you. So take action now. If you are depressed, make those appointments immediately.

If finances are holding you back, then look for low-priced clinics in your community. Call 1-800-SUICIDE for referrals.

If you are not depressed but know someone who is, please make sure that he or she receives help. Remember that untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide, so immediate action is required.

Take action--

Force yourself to take action.

People care about you.

So please take action now.

Many articles on Depression at the following link....
http://suicide.org/depression-and-suicide.html

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Bipolar Disorder and Suicide

by Kevin Caruso

Studies have shown that 25 to 50 percent of people with bipolar disorder (manic depression) attempt suicide.

Thus, early diagnosis and treatment of bipolar disorder should be considered an urgent matter.

So how do you know whether you or someone you know has bipolar disorder?

Become familiar with the symptoms, and if symptoms are present, see a medical doctor and a therapist immediately. Do not delay. Bipolar disorder is highly treatable, so get help.

So what are the symptoms?

Bipolar disorder is a brain disorder that causes strong mood swings or "episodes," which include both manic episodes (also known as mania) and depressive episodes (also known as depression).

The symptoms of manic episodes, or mania, include:


Feelings of euphoria
An abundance of energy
Becoming extremely active
Becoming restless
Inability to concentrate
Racing thoughts
Ideas rushing through the mind one after the other
Talking very fast
Quickly switching from one subject to another when talking
Extreme irritability
Aggressive behavior
Poor judgment
Being confused
Sleeping very little
Increased sexual drive
Abusing alcohol
Abusing drugs
Consuming excessive sleeping tablets
Denying that anything is wrong

A manic episode may occur when an elevated mood exists with three or more of the other symptoms for most of the day, nearly every day, for one week or longer.

Symptoms of depressive episodes, or depression, include:


Feeling intense sadness
Feeling lethargic -- feeling like you have no energy
Unable to concentrate
Sleeping too much or too little
Eating too much or too little
Feeling worthless
Feeling hopeless
Feeling helpless
Feeling negative or pessimisstic
Losing interest in activities that you previously enjoyed
Crying frequently
Withdrawing from others
Neglecting personal appearance
Feeling angry
Feeling guilty
Unable to think clearly
Unable to make decisions

A depressive episode occurs when several of the above symptoms last for two weeks or longer. Basically if "the blues" last for two weeks, you probably have depression, or have experienced a depressive episode.

Most people are symptom free between episodes, although some experience ongoing symptoms of varying severity.

There are two types of bipolar disorder: bipolar disorder I, and bipolar disorder II.

Bipolar disorder I is the classic form of the disorder and involves recurrent episodes of mania and depression.

Bipolar disorder II occurs when severe mania is not exhibited, instead a minor mania is exhibited, known as hypomania.

Hypomania is a milder version of mania, and it makes you feel good, for a while, but the feelings do not last. And be aware that untreated hypomania can lead to severe mania.

Some people with either type of bipolar disorder, who suffer from severe manic or depressive episodes, may experience psychosis.

Symptoms of psychosis include:
Hallucinations--People hallucinate when they see, hear, or somehow sense something that is not actually there.

Delusions--People who have delusions have lost touch with reality and have very strong beliefs about something that is patently false; the belief contradicts logic or common cultural norms.

Two common types of delusions are:
Grandiose delusions--People with delusions of grandeur may exhibit a drastically exaggerated sense of self-importance or may believe that they are a famous person or religious figure.

Persecutory delusions--People with delusions of persecution believe that they are constantly being persecuted, conspired against, attacked, etc., when nothing is actually happening to them.

Note that psychosis also occurs in schizophrenia, and thus some people who have bipolar disorder with psychosis are sometimes misdiagnosed with having schizophrenia.

Bipolar disorder is very common, and more than 2 million Americans have the disorder.

The onset of bipolar disorder usually occurs in late adolescence or early adulthood, although it can occur at almost any age.

Again, studies have shown that 25 to 50 percent of people with bipolar disorder attempt suicide.

And most people who suffer from bipolar disorder who attempt suicide do so after the onset of the disorder.

Thus, if you think there is even the slightest possibility that you have bipolar disorder, get help now. Perhaps you have a medical condition that is causing your mood swings; you will never know if you do not get help. Either way, you need to get diagnosed, and, if necessary, receive treatment. Make an appointment with a medical doctor and a therapist. Do not delay. Make those appointments as soon as possible.

If you are diagnosed with bipolar disorder, a mood-stabilizing drug may be prescribed. Lithium and valproate are commonly prescribed drugs for the disorder, and there are many other drugs that may be prescribed.

It is also important to realize that bipolar disorder is a long-term illness, and thus you do not take medication and become "cured," but you manage the disorder with medication and therapy.

And because it is a long-term disorder, it is important to stay on any prescribed medications and always follow the advice of your doctor, even if you feel fine.

And please get into therapy so you can better manage the psychological aspects of the disorder.

Again, please get help immediately if you think that there is even the slightest possibility that you have bipolar disorder. Make appointments right now with a medical doctor and a therapist. Get help. Do not delay.

Additional information
http://suicide.org/bipolar-disorder-and-suicide.html

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Schizophrenia and Suicide

by Kevin Caruso

Four in ten people who suffer from schizophrenia attempt suicide.

One in ten people who suffer from schizophrenia dies by suicide.

Thus, the diagnosis and treatment of schizophrenia should be considered an urgent matter.

Schizophrenia is a chronic mental disorder that affects over 2 million Americans. People with schizophrenia often have hallucinations and/or delusions. They may hear voices that no one else can hear, believe that other people are controlling their thoughts, believe that others can read their mind, or believe that others are plotting to harm them.

And these problems oftentimes make them fearful and cause them to withdraw from people.

The disorder is caused by genetic factors and is not caused by a response to negative experiences, stress, alcohol or drug use.

Schizophrenia is not a "split personality" or "multiple personality" disorder, as some erroneously believe. But it is a type of psychotic disorder that causes people to have difficulty interpreting reality.

The illness affects both genders, but the onset is normally a few years later in women than in men-- it typically strikes men between 15 and 25 and women between 25 and 35.

Schizophrenia affects people of all ethnicities, in all countries.

Treating schizophrenia consists of prescribing medication; some people will experience a complete elimination of symptoms with the medication, while others will experience a lessening of symptoms.

Therapy should be sought in conjunction with medication, but not as a replacement for the medication.

Again, people who have schizophrenia need to take medication. Period.
The symptoms of schizophrenia are divided into "positive" and "negative" symptoms. Positive symptoms are those that distort normal function. Negative symptoms are those that cause a lessening or loss of normal function.

Positive symptoms


Delusions
Hallucinations
Disorganized speech
Grossly disorganized or catatonic behavior

Negative symptoms


Low energy
Lack of emotion
Low motivation
Difficulty of Inability to speak
A blank facial expression
Inappropriate social skills
Inability to make or keep friends
Social isolation

Cognitive symptoms


Slow thinking
Disorganized thinking
Difficulty understanding
Poor concentration
Poor memory
Difficulty expressing thoughts
Difficulty integrating thoughts, feelings and behavior

In short, if anyone starts acting in an unusual way, starts to withdraw, or experiences hallucinations or delusions, he or she should see a medical doctor and a psychiatrist immediately.

The suicide rate is very high for people with schizophrenia ,and thus if there is the slighteset possiblility that you or someone you know has schizophrenia, get help immediately.

Please take immediate action if you need to.

Additional information...
http://suicide.org/schizophrenia-and-suicide.html

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PTSD and Suicide

by Kevin Caruso

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a mental disorder that may occur in people who experience or witness intense violence, serious accidents, or life-threatening situations. And oftentimes involvement in these situations will make people feel hopeless, fearful, horrified, and overwhelmed.

Possible causes for PTSD include experiencing or witnessing:


Military combat
Rape
Domestic violence
Assault
Sexual molestation
Sexual abuse
A kidnapping
Child abuse
Severe verbal abuse
Terrorism
Torture
An automobile accident
An airplane accident
A fire
A hurricane
A tornado
An animal attack
A threatening individual with a gun or a knife

Symptoms of PTSD include:


"Reliving" the traumatic event through thoughts, flashbacks, and nightmares (Flashbacks can be triggered by anything that causes a memory of the trauma. For example, a war veteran might experience a flashback after seeing a low-flying helicopter).
Experiencing a rapid heart beat and sweating while "reliving" the traumatic event
Feeling numb
Feeling emotionally detached from other people
Sleep disturbances
Irritability
Avoidance of anything associated with the trauma
Anger
Difficulty concentrating
Amnesia
A strong response when shocked
Extreme vigilance - Always feeling "on guard"
Difficulty working
Difficulty with social situations
Inability to properly care for loved ones

The onset of symptoms usually occurs within three months of the incident, but may not occur for several years.

PTSD can affect people of any age, including children.

About 7.5 percent of Americans will experience PTSD in their lifetime.

About 5 million Americans will suffer from PTSD during any year.

Women are twice as likely to experience PTSD as men.

People with PTSD oftentimes also suffer from depression or other mental disorders.

War veterans, law enforcement officers, firefighters, and EMT workers are particularly vulnerable to PTSD.

Anyone with PTSD is at a high risk for suicide.

PTSD is highly treatable with a combination of drug therapy and psychotherapy.

If you or someone you know may have PTSD, please get help immediately. Make an appointment with a medical doctor and a therapist as soon as possible so you can be evaluated and receive treatment.


http://suicide.org/ptsd-and-suicide.html

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Postpartum Depression and Suicide

by Kevin Caruso

"After two months of suffering from severe anxiety attacks, feeling very, very sad but not really being able to cry and not being able to talk to anyone, I thought I must be losing my mind. I wanted to end it all. I thought my husband, new baby and four kids would be better off without me. I didn't really want to die. I didn't want to live either if I was going to be like this," said Laura Cincotta, who suffered from postpartum depression. "I was crying out for help and no one could tell me what I had or how to treat it. I asked to be put in the hospital. I can absolutely understand how women can tragically lose their lives to this horrible but treatable illness. I feel fortunate that I found help."

Those words sum up very well what a woman with postpartum depression can experience. And, unfortunately, postpartum depression is quite common, with 10 to 15 percent of women experiencing it..

Women usually begin to experience postpartum depression within the first two weeks after childbirth. However, symptoms may not appear for up to one year after childbirth.

Symptoms of postpartum depression include:


Intense sadness
Strong mood swings
Frequent crying
Irritability
Low self-esteem
Feeling exhausted
Inability to concentrate
Withdrawing from family and friends
Feeling hopeless
Losing interest in activities
Anxiety attacks
Panic attacks
Headaches and chest pains
Hyperventilation
Heart palpitations
Eating too much or too little
Sleeping too much or too little
Suicidal thoughts

Many women who experience postpartum depression do not know what is wrong with them so they do not ask for help. Others believe that they need help, but are disinclined to seek it because of the stigma associated with mental illness.

It should be noted that postpartum depression is much more serious than the extremely common "baby blues." The baby blues will affect between 70 to 80 percent of women after childbirth, with symptoms usually developing within the first four days after delivery.

The symptoms of the baby blues include sadness, irritability, frequent crying, and exhaustion. But these symptoms typically only last a few days.
If you think you have the "baby blues" but the symptoms persist, you need to see your doctor immediately.

It should also be noted that there is a relatively rare condition known as postpartum psychosis which is much more serious than postpartum depression.

About one in one thousand women will develop postpartum psychosis, with symptoms usually occurring within two weeks. The symptoms include hallucinations, delusions, and quick mood swings. Essentially, women with postpartum psychosis lose touch with reality. And they are at an extremely high risk for suicide and for infanticide.

Steps that pregnant women may take to help prevent or minimize problems associated with postpartum depression (or related disorders) include:


Learn as much as possible about postpartum depression and related postpartum disorders.
See a doctor regularly before, during, and after delivery.
See a therapist regularly before, during, and after delivery. By seeing a therapist as well as a doctor, one more professional will be involved who may spot symptoms. Remember that postpartum disorders are very common, so the best strategy is to be proactive.
Eat a healthy diet.
Exercise regularly.
Keep your stress level as low as possible
Establish a strong support network with friends and family members that will be prepared to help at any juncture.
After delivery, honestly communicate how you feel on a daily basis with key members in your support group.
Get help immediately if you believe you are experiencing postpartum depression or a related disorder.

Please remember that untreated depression - including untreated postpartum depression - is the number one cause for suicide.
If you need help, get it immediately.

http://suicide.org/postpartum-depression-and-suicide.html

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Domestic Violence and Suicide

One in three women is victimized by domestic violence at some point in her life.

Only one in five victims with physical injuries seeks medical treatment.

Only about half of domestic violence incidents are reported to police.

Almost all of the perpetrators of domestic violence say that they will stop.
But most don't. The violence usually gets worse.

All women who are victims of domestic violence are at risk of being murdered by their abusers.

And one out of every four women who are the victims of domestic violence attempt suicide.

Domestic violence is always wrong, and it is a crime.

And there is never an excuse for domestic violence. Never.

All perpetrators of domestic violence are cowards and criminals.

The women who are victimized by these heinous crimes feel trapped and confused. The abuser not only physically attacks the woman, but also psychologically attacks her. The verbal attacks are meant to control the victim, and to try to strip her of her self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love. The perpetrator also often wants the woman to believe that she is at fault for the violence and the verbal abuse.

Many domestic violence victims try to change their behavior (even though they are not doing anything wrong) because the horrible attacks leave them hopeless, helpless, and confused. But there really is nothing that the victims can do to stop the violence, because they are dealing with a selfish, cruel criminal who does not have a conscience. All of the blame is on the criminal--the cowardly perpetrator of the domestic violence--not on the victim.

The horrible crime of domestic violence often results in a woman isolating herself and becoming clinically depressed.

Many women feel trapped and powerless, and do not receive treatment for their depression, and thus believe that suicide is the only way out.

Also, many children who are in households where domestic violence occurs attempt suicide. Children are deeply affected by the physical and emotional abuse; they too feel powerless, and oftentimes become depressed. They may seek to end their own pain and escape from the horrors of domestic violence with dying by suicide.

If you are a victim of domestic violence, please get help immediately.
Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at
1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)

TDD - 1-800-787-3224

The best way to end domestic violence is to leave the criminal abuser.

Go to a shelter if you need to.

Stay with family if you need to.

Stay with friends if you need to.

But please get help immediately, and please protect yourself and your children (if you have any).

Again, the number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline is
1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)

TDD - 1-800-787-3224

Please get help now.

Remember that there is never an excuse for domestic violence. Never.

You deserve a better life.

You are a great person.

Take care of yourself.

http://suicide.org/domestic-violence-and-suicide.html

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Rape and Suicide

by Kevin Caruso

Innumerable victims of rape have attempted suicide.

And, sadly, many have died by suicide.

Rape is a horrible, disgusting crime that is perpetrated by individuals that can only be described as evil cowards.

Every time I receive an e-mail, phone call, or visit from a rape victim telling me about the physical and emotional pain that she endured, my heart sinks.

I do not know how a woman could be raped and not become depressed.
Many have told me that they feel like the rapist sentenced them to a life of hell.

Their pain does not end.

And every time I read an e-mail, call, or visit from someone who tells me about being raped as a child, my heart collapses.

I do not know how a young girl could possibly cope with the physical and mental anguish associated with a rape.

And compounding the mental and physical hell that a woman goes through after the rape are the comments that people can make to her.

Some will try to minimize the problem.

Others won't believe her.

And others will blame her, with unbelievable statements like these:
"You let him in your apartment, didn't you? Well, what did you expect?"
"It was your fault too - you must accept your share of the blame."
"You must have done something to deserve this."

So what should you do if you are raped?
Reach out for help.
Call the police immediately after a rape.
Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE
Get into therapy.
Surround yourself with caring, helpful, loving, understanding, and supportive people.
Reach out to other rape victims -- they can understand what you are going through.
Read books written by other rape survivors.
Be gentle with yourself.

If you ever are suicidal call 1-800-SUICIDE or your local emergency number.

Always remember that suicide in never the answer -- getting help is the answer.

And take it one day at a time.

Additional information...
http://suicide.org/rape-and-suicide.html

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Divorce and Suicide

by Kevin Caruso

It is extremely common for people to become depressed over a divorce, and untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide.

Thus, a divorce can significantly increase a person's risk for suicide.

One study by the National Institute for Healthcare Research indicates that divorced people are three times as likely to die by suicide as people who are married.

Thus, if you are going through a divorce, you need to get a strong support network in place. And get into therapy, whether you think you need to or not. Be proactive.

Try to exercise regularly and eat a healthy diet.

And express your feelings. Talk out your problems -- do not hold your emotions in.

And if you become depressed, get treatment.

And if you ever feel suicidal, get help immediately. Call 911 or 1-800-SUICIDE.

Divorce is also quite stressful for children, and thus you need to make sure that your children have a strong support system. Take time to talk with them on a regular basis. Listen to everything that they have to say, and let them know that they can talk with you whenever they need to. Explain things clearly to them. And give them a lot of love.

You can also consider some type of counseling for your children. Because you are being subjected to such a great level of stress, it may be difficult to always be there for your children, so a counselor may be able to help both of you.

And if you or your children feel suicidal, get help immediately.

Suicide.org/divorce-and-suicide.html (http://suicide.org/divorce-and-suicide.html)

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Teen Suicide and Youth Suicide


If you or someone you know is in immediate danger because of thoughts of suicide



Please call 911 now


If you are not in the U.S., please call your local emergency number.

There is help for you. Stay on the phone with the operator and wait for help to arrive.



Do not hesitate to call. Your life is extremely valuable, and people care about you.

Please reach out for help. Never act on your thoughts of suicide. Never.


Suicide is Never the Answer



If you are not in immediate danger because of thoughts of suicide,
but need someone to talk with about your suicidal feelings,
please do not hesitate to call the National Hopeline Network for Suicide Prevention:
Suicide Prevention Hotlines:

1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or

1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)

You may call this number from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day.

People are waiting to help you. Call right now if you need to. And always remember that is it never okay to act on your thoughts of suicide. Never.



Never act on your thoughts of suicide

Extensive suicide prevention hotline numbers, categorized by country or state, province, or country, can be found on the Suicide Hotlines (http://suicide.org/suicide-hotlines.html) pages of this web site. Go to the Suicide Hotlines (http://suicide.org/suicide-hotlines.html) index page now if you need to.
Suicide is never the answer



If you do not need to call 911 or 1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-273-TALK, please continue.



Suicide is the third leading cause of death among youths aged 15-24.



Suicide is the sixth leading cause of death among youths aged 5-14.



A youth suicide (aged 15-24) occurs every 100 minutes.



Young people can become emotionally distraught rather easily and thus are vulnerable to suicidal thoughts.


It is thus important for parents to try and pick up on any possible warning signs (http://suicide.org/suicide-warning-signs.html) for suicide and to seek help for the suicidal youth as quickly as possible. (Please peruse the suicide warning signs (http://suicide.org/suicide-warning-signs.html) page on this website to learn more about what to look for).



Listed below are a few of the problems that can potentially trigger suicidal thoughts in a young person:


Death of a parent.


Divorce of parents.


Feeling like a "pawn" that is being used between feuding, divorced parents.


Joining a new family with a step-parent and step-siblings.


Breaking up with a boyfriend / girlfriend.


Moving to a new community.


Not feeling accepted by peers.


Being ridiculed by classmates.


Feeling misunderstood.


Any experience perceived to be "humiliating."


Alcohol abuse.


Drug abuse.
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Being bullied by classmates. Note: Bullying is an extremely serious problem. Please click below for additonal information:
Bullying and Suicide (http://suicide.org/bullying-and-suicide.html)

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Self-injury (such as cutting and burning) is anther common problem for young people. And young people who engage in this activity are at risk for suicide.



Please click below for important articles on self-injury.
Self-Injury Among Teens on the Rise; A Suicide Risk (http://suicide.org/self-injury-among-teens-suicide-risk.html)
Amber's Story of Self-Injury and a Suicide Pact (http://suicide.org/self-injury-and-a-suicide-pact.html)
Suicidal Teen Who Used a Razor Blade to Self-Mutilate Shares Her Experience (http://suicide.org/teen-suicide-self-mutilation-self-cutting.html)
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When depressed teens use alcohol, their risk for suicide increases.
Binge drinking is extremely dangerous unto it self, but when a depressed teens binge drink, the suicide risk increases dramatically.



Please click below to learn more.
Depressed Teens Who Binge Drink at High Risk for Suicide (http://suicide.org/depressed-teens-who-binge-drink-at-high-risk-for-suicide.html)
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It is extremely important that all schools have a suicide prevention program.



If your school does not have a suicide prevention program, you can get one free by clicking below.

Free Suicide Prevention Program for Schools (http://suicide.org/suicide-prevention-program-for-schools.html)

(http://suicide.org/suicide-prevention-program-for-schools.html)
All students need to feel free to ask for help at school if they are depressed or suicidal.



And administrators, teachers, and students need to try to spot depressed or suicidal students so help can be provided to them.
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If someone tells you that they want to die by suicide, you must get help for the person.



Always tell others.



Click below to learn what to do if someone tells you that he or she is suicidal.



Suicide Can Never be a Secret (http://suicide.org/suicide-can-never-be-a-secret.html)
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Should children and teens use antidepressants?
There has been much debate about this topic.
Please read the articles below for more information, but remember whether or not you decide to allow your child to take antidepressants, you child must receive treatment if he or she is depressed. Untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide.



What You Need to Know if Your Child or Teen May Need Antidepressants (http://suicide.org/if-your-child-needs-antidepressants.html)
FDA Advisory Recommendation: 'Black Box' Warning (Highest Warning) for Antidepressants Prescribed to Children and Teens (http://suicide.org/fda-black-box-warning.html)
Antidepressants Raise Suicide Risk in Some Children and Teens, FDA Says (http://suicide.org/antidepressants-raise-suicide-risk-in-children-and-teens.html)
Are Antidepressants Safe for Children? Can They Cause Suicide? (http://suicide.org/antidepressants-safe-for-children-cause-suicide.html)
Use of Psychiatric Drugs by Children More Than Doubled in a Decade (http://suicide.org/psychiatric-drugs-and-children.html)
Brain Enzyme Linked to Teen Suicide (http://suicide.org/brain-enzyme-linked-to-teen-suicide.html)
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Gay,lesbian, bisexual, and transgender teens are vulnerable to depression and suicide because they not only deal with the normal problems of being a teen, but also the discrimination, intolerance, harassment, and hate of people who cannot accept their orientation.



The Trevor Helpline is a 24-hour suicide prevention line aimed at gay,lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning teens.
The number is:



1-866-4-U-TREVOR
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Note to all parents:
Try to pick up any suicide warning signs (http://suicide.org/suicide-warning-signs.html) that your children may exhibit. And always maintain good communication with them.



Constant, open communication with your children is extremely important. Parents need to establish an environment that fosters open communication. And children need to know that they can speak up when there is a problem that they need help with.



Single parents already have a tremendous challenge on their hands, but they must realize the potential for additional stress their children may feel because of the absence of the other parent. Again, constant, open communication is imperative.



If A child becomes suicidal, the most important thing that you can do is to get professional help immediately. Do not try to tackle the problem alone. Suicidal feelings can be very powerful, and immediate treatment is needed.
Remember that most children who are suicidal are suffering from clinical depression, which is caused by a chemical imbalance in their brain. And that chemical imbalance needs to be treated. And thus it is imperative that professional treatment is obtained.



Help is always available.



Call 911 immediately if the your is critically suicidal.
Call 1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-273-TALK if your child has suicidal feelings, but is not in immediate danger of acting on those feelings.


http://suicide.org/teen-suicide-and-youth-suicide.html

[Pauli]

Elderly Suicide

by Kevin Caruso

Elderly suicide is a very serious problem. Although the elderly (age 65 and older) comprise about 13% of the U.S. population, they account for over 18% of all suicides.

The most common cause for elderly suicide, as for all suicides, is untreated depression. Thus, elderly depression needs to be recognized and treated.
And about one third of the seniors who are 65 or older experience depression.

Some individuals erroneously believe that depression is a normal part of being elderly, which is completely untrue. Depression is not normal for people of any age. Elderly people with depression have a chemical imbalance in their brain. And that chemical imbalance is extremely common and highly treatable.

However, it is important that an elderly person who exhibits symptoms of depression receives a thorough physical exam from a medical doctor to determine if there is a physical basis for the depression. Some physical conditions and the use of some medications may cause symptoms of depression.

The following disease and physical problems may cause symptoms of depression:


thyroid disorders
diabetes
Parkinson's disease
multiple sclerosis
strokes
tumors
some viral infections

The following medications may cause symptoms of depression:


blood pressure medication
arthritis medication
hormones
steroids

Please review the suicide warning signs (http://suicide.org/suicide-warning-signs.html) page on this website so you will be familiar with symptoms of depression and suicide. If you or someone you know has several of these symptoms, please get help right away.

Please remember that close monitoring of any elderly person is always required, especially after any stressful life event such as the loss of a spouse.

Also, many elderly people will hide their depression because they do not want to be seen as weak, crazy, or suffering from dementia. So it is critical to watch closely for any hint of a suicide warning sign or depression symptom. And always keep the lines of communication open.

If you are an elderly person and need help, please reach out. Talk with family members. Call a friend. Get into therapy. Take action to help yourself.

And if you or someone you know is suicidal, immediate action is required;

http://suicide.org/elderly-suicide.html

[Grins]

The Catholic Church has changed views on suicide and annulment of marriage based upon modern knowledge of psychological immaturity, depression, chemical brain and other hormonal imbalances, mental illness and other factors affecting the free will.

As to suicide:

The authoritative Catechism of the Catholic Church (paragraphs 2280-2283) makes the following points about suicide:

"... * "Grave psychological disturbances, anguish, or grave fear of hardship, suffering, or torture can diminish the responsibility of the one committing suicide."
* "We should not despair of the eternal salvation of persons who have taken their own lives. By ways known to him alone, God can provide the opportunity for salutary repentance. The Church prays for persons who have taken their own lives."

http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/14326b.htm

[packy]

Myths about Suicide

http://www.ace-network.com/suicmyths.htm

There are many commonly-held misconceptions about suicide. These myths of suicide often stand in the way of providing assistance for those who are at-risk. By dispelling the myths, those responsible for the care and education of young people will be in a better position to identify those who are at-risk and to provide the help that is needed.

MYTH
Young people who talk bout suicide never attempt or complete suicide.

FACT
Talking about suicide can be a plea for help and can be a late sign in the progression toward a suicide attempt. Those who are most at risk will show other signs apart from talking about suicide. If you have concerns about a young person who talks about suicide:
- Encourage them to talk further and help them to find appropriate counseling assistance
- Ask if they are thinking about making a suicide attempt.
- Ask if they have a plan.
- Think about the completeness of the plan and how dangerous it is. Do not trivialize plans that seem less complete or less dangerous. ALL suicidal intentions are serious and must be acknowledged as such.
- Encourage the young person to develop a personal safety plan. This can include time spent with others, check-in points with significant adults, plans for the future.

MYTH
A promise to keep a note unopened and unread should always be kept.

FACT
Where the potential for harm, or actual harm, is disclosed- then confidentiality cannot be maintained. A Sealed note with the request for the note not to be opened is a very strong indicator that something is seriously amiss. A sealed not is a late sign in the progression towards suicide.

MYTH
Attempted or completed suicides happen without warning.

FACT
The survivors of a suicide often say that the intention was hidden, however it is more likely that the intention was not recognized. These warning signs include:
- The recent suicide, or death by other means, of a friend or relative.
- Previous suicide attempts.
- Preoccupation with themes of death or expressing suicidal thoughts.
- Depression, conduct disorder or problems with adjustment such as substance abuse (particularly when two or more of these are present).
- Giving away of prized possessions, making a will or other final arrangements.
- Major changes in sleep patterns- too much or too little.
- Sudden and extreme changes in eating habits, losing or gaining weight.
- Withdrawal from friends/family or other major behavioral changes.
- Dropping out of group activities.
- Personality changes such as nervousness, outbursts of anger, impulsive or reckless behavior, or apathy about appearance or health.
- Frequent irritability or unexplained crying.
- Lingering expressions of unworthiness or failure.
- Lack of interest in the future.

* A sudden lifting of spirits, when there have been other indicators, may point to a decision to end the pain of life through suicide.

MYTH
If a person attempts suicide and survives, they will never make a further attempt.

FACT
A suicide attempt is regarded as an indicator of further attempts. It is likely that the level of danger will increase with each further suicide attempt.

MYTH
Once a person is intent on suicide, there is no way of stopping them.

FACT
Suicides CAN be prevented. people CAN be helped. Suicidal crisis can be relatively short-lived. Suicide is a permanent solution to what is usually a temporary problem. Immediate practical help such as staying with the person, encouraging them to talk and helping them build plans for the future, can avert the intention to attempt or complete suicide. Such immediate help is valuable at a time of crisis, but appropriate counseling will then be required.

MYTH
Suicidal young people cannot help themselves.


FACT
While contemplating suicide, young people may have a distorted perception of their actual life situation and what solutions are appropriate for them to take. However, with support and constructive assistance from caring and informed people around them, young people can gain full self-direction and self-management of their lives.

MYTH
The only effective intervention for suicide comes from professional psychotherapists with extensive experience in this area.

FACT
All people who interact with suicidal adolescents can help them by way of emotional support and encouragement. Psychotherapeutic interventions also rely heavily on family and friends providing a network of support.

MYTH
Most suicidal young people never seek or ask for help with their problems.

FACT
Evidence shows that they often tell their school peers of their thoughts and plans. Most suicidal adults visit a medical doctor during the three months prior to killing themselves. Adolescents are more likely to 'ask' for help through non-verbal gestures than to express their situation verbally to others.

MYTH
Suicidal young people are always angry when someone intervenes and they will resent that person afterwards.

FACT
While it is common for young people to be defensive and resist help at first, these behaviors are often barriers imposed to test how much people care and are prepared to help. for most adolescents considering suicide, it is a relief to have someone genuinely care about them and to be able to share the emotional burden of their plight with another person. When questioned some time later, the vast majority express gratitude for the intervention.

MYTH
Suicidal young people are insane or mentally ill.

FACT
Although suicidal adolescents are likely to be extremely unhappy and may be classified as having a mood disorder, such as depression, most are not legally insane. However, there are small numbers of individuals whose mental state meets psychiatric criteria for mental illness and who need Psychiatric help.

MYTH
Most suicides occur in winter months when the weather is poor.

FACT
Seasonal variation data are essentially based on adult suicides, with limited adolescent data available. However, it seems adolescent suicidal behavior is most common during the spring and early summer months.

MYTH
Some people are always suicidal.

FACT
Nobody is suicidal at all times. the risk of suicide for any individual varies across time, as circumstances change. This is why it is important for regular assessments of the level of risk in individuals who are 'at-risk'.

MYTH
Every death is preventable.

FACT
No matter how well intentioned, alert and diligent people's efforts may be, there is no way of preventing all suicides from occurring

MYTH
People who threaten suicide are just seeking attention.

FACT
All suicide attempts must be treated as though the person has the intent to die. Do not dismiss a suicide attempt as simply being an attention-gaining device. It is likely that the young person has tried to gain attention and, therefore, this attention is needed. The attention that they get may well save their lives.

MYTH
Talking about suicide or asking someone if they feel suicidal will encourage suicide attempts.

FACT
Talking about suicide provides the opportunity for communication. Fears that are shared are more likely to diminish. The first step in encouraging a suicidal person to live comes from talking about feelings. That first step can be the simple inquiry about whether or not the person in intending to end their life. However, talking about suicide should be carefully managed.

MYTH
Only certain types of people become suicidal.

FACT
Everyone has the potential for suicide. The evidence is that predisposing conditions may lead to either attempted or completed suicides. it is unlikely that those who do not have the predisposing condition (for example, depression, conduct disorder, substance abuse, feeling of rejection, rage, emotional pain and anger), will complete suicide.

MYTH
Depression and self-destructive behavior are rare in young people.

FACT
Both forms of behavior are common in adolescents. Depression may manifest itself in ways which are different from its manifestation in adults. Self-destructive behavior is most likely to be shown for the first time in adolescence and its incidence is on the rise.

MYTH
Suicide is painless

FACT
Many suicide methods are very painful. Fictional portrayals of suicide do not usually include the reality of the pain.

Mental Health Library
Royal Park Hospital
Parkville, Victoria

[Grins]

A Good Thing
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"National Survivors of Suicide Day

On Saturday, November 21, 2009, the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) will be sponsoring its 11th annual National Survivors of Suicide Day. This event, designed to reach out to those who have lost a loved one to suicide, offers participants a chance to connect with other survivors for support and healing.

Conferences will be offered in cities nationwide, with those conferences being linked by a live national broadcast by satellite/webcast from 1-2:30 p.m. EST. The conference will be broadcast live on the AFSP website at the same time, followed by an online chat. Many of the conference sites will also hold panel discussions, workshops and other activities both for survivors and for professionals.

* List of Conference Sites
* Register for the Webcast
* Learn More

Related Articles:

* Resources for Suicide Survivors
* Suicide Prevention
* Suicide Hotlines.."

[A good site for all info about depression]
http://depression.about.com/