Worried About a Victims' Family Member

[CSAFD]

in the Unsolved thread i posted my best friends' daughters' murder case, her name is Brittany Danielle McGlone, she was beaten to death in the home of her boyfriend in Winnsboro, Tx. on May 4, 2007 (same day as national attention of Kara Kopetsky, yet Britt's case hardly made any news) anyway, im real worried bout Brittany's half sister(not going to name her for privacy reasons),....she was 16 when i happened and now almost 2 years later, ive seen changes in her, she seems to have a lot of anger (understandable her sister was murdered. yet i worry that she might do something stupid, like suicide. cuz @ times she goes into severe deppression. her myspace blogs really show it. ive talked with her mom and she assures me that she is getting councling. i will see the family on the 2nd yr aniversary. any comments on how to help her cope with things. in 2000 my friend was murdered and its still hard to get over. (it was 3 days before Molly Bish was murdered) 9 years later the pain is still there. so i know what she is going thru. :sad0119:

[foxfarmboxers]

in the Unsolved thread i posted my best friends' daughters' murder case, her name is Brittany Danielle McGlone, she was beaten to death in the home of her boyfriend in Winnsboro, Tx. on May 4, 2007 (same day as national attention of Kara Kopetsky, yet Britt's case hardly made any news) anyway, im real worried bout Brittany's half sister(not going to name her for privacy reasons),....she was 16 when i happened and now almost 2 years later, ive seen changes in her, she seems to have a lot of anger (understandable her sister was murdered. yet i worry that she might do something stupid, like suicide. cuz @ times she goes into severe deppression. her myspace blogs really show it. ive talked with her mom and she assures me that she is getting councling. i will see the family on the 2nd yr aniversary. any comments on how to help her cope with things. in 2000 my friend was murdered and its still hard to get over. (it was 3 days before Molly Bish was murdered) 9 years later the pain is still there. so i know what she is going thru. :sad0119:

Thank you for sharing this with us. I hate to hear this about your best friends daughter....for you and her family. I hope that the half sister IS indeed receiving counseling. I hope everyone is. I believe that this is a step that should be made by all involved, if at all possible. Please keep us posted. (((Hugs))) I'm so sorry to hear of your other friends murder in 2000. It's always so hard to lose a friend, especially under those circumstances. Unfortunately the pain of losing someone close to you is a never-ending ache. I'm sure you could be a big help to Brittany's half sister. Could you maybe schedule a "lunch"/"dinner" with her??? Maybe you could just "be there" for her. Maybe someone who "understands" , just "reaching out" to her, and being there for her, could help beyond reason. (JMHO) ((((hugs)))) to ya CSAFD~!

[CSAFD]

im going to Tx the 1st week of May for Britt's 2nd aniversary, and be the advocate @ court as well the midle of May. im going to spend time with all of the family, Britt's mom, the half-sister and her mom, and her dad as well. the H/S (half sis) took it harder than everyone else except Britt's mom who is really struggling as well. i will keep ya'll posted. in the mean time if anyone has any contacts they can send me to help keep Britt's story in the news. ive tried to get AMW, Nancy Grace, Greta, Dateline all to do stories butthey wont. please email me at: bdm4ever19@yahoo.com

[foxfarmboxers]

Since it's the 2nd Anniversay, you should be able to contact local newspapers, tv news stations, and have them run the story again on the Anniversary. Dates such as this, birthdays, etc, are all good times to have local news media re-cover the story to get the information back into the public eye. I hope this helps.

[Roamer]

I've heard of this happening so often in families who have lost a child...especially to murder. And I'm so sorry.

Somewhere here we have a thread with email addresses for all the news outlets. I'll go look for it.

[Roamer]

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[CSAFD]

we do have a suspect, but from what i understand from Brittany's mom is that the Wood Co. sherriff's detective botched the investigation. (and has since been fired from the Dept.) so we may never get a conviction on Brittany's murder, the suspect will go on trial May 18th for the 2006 sexual assualt on his ex-wife. the victims' half sister tho is a main concern, i keep in touch with her thru AOL IM and she says she's doing ok, yet her blogs show different, i just pray she doesnt do something stupid. just keep the family in your prayers.

[Grins]

Grieving with the family is a good thing. Be a friend but not a therapist.
Trying to help families of murder victims
was a daily challenge for me
as a homicide prosecutor.

Over the years I learned:
=how to help beyond being a friend requires some input from the counselors involved and local victims' rights advocates who know the condition of each person or have certain basic things to do and to avoid.

=keeping the story in the news is not helpful in every case with every person even in one family. It may make things worse for some.

=understandable grief, anger and frustration may tresult in burning hatred which may lead to physical and emotional illness in the family member already burdened in many ways.
How do you deal with that?

=Professional advice is needed before doing and saying what we think is helpful. It is important to avoid fueling the hatred and making things worse. Many do this with the best of intentions by comments intended to support yet adding a new rage level.
~~~~~~
The Astonishing Remedy for Hatred: A Homicide Prosecutor's Peculiar Advice to Forgive the Killer

=ironically, the best relief for the family is a decision to forgive the killer. That must be left to the experts unless you have an opportunity to tell about how it helped another family. This I had and did, so you may tell of a man you heard with my DA's experience describe how deciding to forgive and let it go to God or a Higher Power to punish the killer was a way of preventing the killer from destroying the rest of the family.

This casts a new light on forgiveness; it is not for the benefit of the killer but the family; it is not saying the act is ok; it is not doing the killer a favor; it is not minimizing the vicious and cowardly crime; it is a way to be free of the slavery of hatred which it is said is 'drinking poison and hoping the bad guy will die.'
No, if we hate we die.
[Forgive I do because God commands it and he forgave his murderers from the cross..]

=none of this is intended to be critical but we all need wisdom and in my case, over 150+ murder cases the ways I could help varied with each person; sometimes I said a lot and sometimes nothing. There was no simple answer but we all can help if we get advice first.

Bless you for being a friend CSAFD~I am praying for you and all who suffer this complex heartache.

Everyone is free to pass the contents of this post to anyone anywhere and to keep and use it always.
It is not a theory; it is my experience.

[Pauli]

in the Unsolved thread i posted my best friends' daughters' murder case, her name is Brittany Danielle McGlone, she was beaten to death in the home of her boyfriend in Winnsboro, Tx. on May 4, 2007 (same day as national attention of Kara Kopetsky, yet Britt's case hardly made any news) anyway, im real worried bout Brittany's half sister(not going to name her for privacy reasons),....she was 16 when i happened and now almost 2 years later, ive seen changes in her, she seems to have a lot of anger (understandable her sister was murdered. yet i worry that she might do something stupid, like suicide. cuz @ times she goes into severe deppression. her myspace blogs really show it. ive talked with her mom and she assures me that she is getting councling. i will see the family on the 2nd yr aniversary. any comments on how to help her cope with things. in 2000 my friend was murdered and its still hard to get over. (it was 3 days before Molly Bish was murdered) 9 years later the pain is still there. so i know what she is going thru. :sad0119:

This is something that you never get over, you just learn to deal with it in your own ways. When we lost my daughter my son had anger issues for a long time. He was mad at everyone, me included. I think at times he still is and it's been 19 years. Her father could not handle it and committed suicide. I think for the young when something like this happens in their family it's important for them to talk to someone not associated with the family in any way. They can open up more about their true feelings and not feel they are going to upset or hurt anyone else's. It's very easy for someone in this situation to begin to resent their own family and friends for telling them how they should be feeling or acting. You can take someone even deeper in to depression if you do not know the right things to say.. and sometimes telling a person 'it's ok honey, things will get better' etc.. are not what they want or need to hear.

I totally agree with Grins on the forgiving part. If I had not let myself forgive I probably would not be here today... I would have OD' or maybe even worse. You have to get past the hate and anger or it will eat you alive. You have to find your own path, find some sort of meaning for what happened. Although, I would give my own life for my daughter to have hers back again, her death is what led me to this point in my life and to this place being started. Hopefully we can help others from going through this same thing.. and if they go through it, maybe we can give them information and support that will help them survive.

[Louise]

You have made some very good points in your post Pauli. :love0085:

[CSAFD]

Pauli, i agree whole heartedly with you, Mond. marks the two yr anv. and her sister still have alot of anger issues, Britt and Hope were inseperable, they did everything together. Britt's uncle, still cant talk about it. and its really eating him up inside accordinng to his girlfriend. it took me several years to get over the anger of what Eddie Loden did to my friend Leesa Gray on Jun. 23, 2000. and that was FOUR Days before the more famous Molly Bish Case on Jun. 27, 2000. as for Brittany's case. it is real hard on the family, the suspect has pleaded down to guilty to a 2006 charge of serious bodily injury instead of going on trial for felony Rape. and he was only sentenced to 5 years PROBATION and 500$ fine. he has to wear a GPS monitor and can not go near his ex-wife or her family. had LE done their job Brittany McGlone would still be alive. the state should have never released him, he is a repeat offender, just like cases now, Esmey Kenney, Anne Pressly, Dru Sjodin, Imette St. Guillen and others were all murdered by RELEASED offenders. there is a Law and Order SVU episode that proves my point.

Guest Star Robert Patrick of Terminator 2 and X-Files, portrays a released sex offender, who Det. Eliot Stabler (Chris Meloni) is sure that Patrick will reoffend and goes undercover as a paroled offender, and befriends Patrick, of course he does by kidnapping a girl. luckly Stabler is able to save her in time @ the end.


im just so aggrivated that these criminals get their rights protected now. and we as victims family members cant touch them. or LE turns their backs. which is what has happened in Brittany's case. Lt. Tucker was recently fired for his botched investigation. i have been asked to do an interview about Brittany's case on "Justice Interupted" soon, no date has been set yet for it, but we're working on it. so we can tell Brittany's story and get more media coverage and start to begin healing. ill keep you updated in Brittany's special request thread.....sorry for going on and on.

[Grins]

Well said Pauli.
What we feel is part of being a loving person dealing with shock and loss. How we deal with it all takes help; wise and informed help.
Ask for it from a grief counselor. They know; friends mean well but often do not know the healing words~

[Grins]

My God said to me "I will handle the vengeance; give me your hate."

[Heathersauntlisa]

alot of people dont understand that there is always more than one victim. the family is also a victim. my niece was murdered and it only been 7 months, her dad passed awy in march and he never new his daughter was found, he carried guilt, that he was not able to protect her.i hope the sister gets the help she needs before something over takes her that can not be fixed,