Letter from dead sister still haunts brothers

[rem16]

ELKHORN, Wisconsin (CNN) -- Every time Julie Jensen's brothers hear the letter read, it brings everything back. They say they wonder why their sister didn't tell them about her marital woes and how tormented she might have been in her final weeks. Even more, they wonder if they could have saved her.

"I hear her voice every time I hear the words in that letter," said Jensen's brother Paul Griffin.

"If she would have come to any one of us for support ... we would have helped her."

http://www.cnn.com/2008/CRIME/01/18/jensen.trial/index.html

[Grins]

When I was suicidally depressed, I never told anyone or asked for help even though many were glad to help me.
Depression disturbs the mind and thinking processes shut down while the hopelessness feeds upon itself.

There was no sense to what I did or did not do. When you are dead inside, you just go on~

My hope is that the family and friends do not blame themselves.
The illness cunningly conceals itself.

[Roamer]

It's a very sad fact that abused women don't tell. Some are afraid, and some are ashamed.

To us it makes no sense, but in their secluded world, it does.

[rockford2]

When I suffered from my post partum, I also tried killing myself. If my husband had not come home, (which he was not suppose to do; he was at his parent's home with our infant) I would not be typing this today.

I told nobody how I felt although everyone could tell I was not myself. NOBODY thought I would try to kill myself especially just having had given birth.

If I received a letter from somebody I loved AFTER they committed suicide, I would totally blame myself. No matter what. But that is just how I am...

I pray for strength for the survivors who received this letter, and pray that they don't blame themselves. :1222423:

[rem16]

When I suffered from my post partum, I also tried killing myself. If my husband had not come home, (which he was not suppose to do; he was at his parent's home with our infant) I would not be typing this today.

I told nobody how I felt although everyone could tell I was not myself. NOBODY thought I would try to kill myself especially just having had given birth.

If I received a letter from somebody I loved AFTER they committed suicide, I would totally blame myself. No matter what. But that is just how I am...

I pray for strength for the survivors who received this letter, and pray that they don't blame themselves. :1222423:

But this isn't a suicide. Her husband is on trial for poisoning her, isn't he? I should have posted this in that thread.

[Grins]

But this isn't a suicide. Her husband is on trial for poisoning her, isn't he? I should have posted this in that thread.
Yes I guess it would be better there rem. But the issues we responded to are:
= feeling guilt or blame after a death by violence, whether by myself or another.
and
= why the deceased did not come to the family with the problems.