Can I afford to take my dream job?

[gibbrishclown]

I got an email today telling me that there would likely be a position available to me with the Humane Society where I'm moving this week. Positions range from part and full time $7-9/ hour. I'm not surprised by this because it's in the animal field and that's no place to make money, but I have a bachelor's degree and a certification in dog training that I'll barely be utilizing. I don't know if I can afford to take a position like this even though it's in a no-kill (limited entry) shelter and it'd scratch my rescue itch while providing me income working with animals. So the Pro side would be feeling fulfilled after a long day's work with needy animals and a paycheck (kinda) the Con is pretty much soley in that they can only pay me entry level wages and I'd have to just keep hoping that eventually they'd pay me what I'm worth...

:0009: input?

[F~M]

If there is any way you can do it and live on what they pay you, then go for it.

You want to be happy if you have to work. There's nothing worse than waking up every day, going to a job that you absolutely hate. :friends3:

[gibbrishclown]

This job would be my dream job if not for the very low wages! I will only have to pay about $500 a month for my keep in my home, but that won't include dog costs, girly incidentals, car costs etc.. I also don't know if they offer benefits with full time... Those things aside though, yes!! I would get up every morning happy to go to work. I'd be saving lives and making a difference like I've always wanted to... my understanding of training could help these rescues become more adoptable and in turn keep a spot open for the next guy who would otherwise have been turned away due to lack of room to go to a kill shelter. I want to do this, but I don't want to do this and have another job just to keep my head above water. I don't want my boyfriend to suffer or have to work harder because I took on a job that couldn't pay enough etc...

[Justiceguy]

I don't think you can live without the support of a significant other on that kind of money, full time. Ask if you can work 10-20 hours a week there, and use the rest of your time to make some money to live on, my advice, for what it's worth. Volunteering also is an option. I know many people who volunteer a day a week doing something they love. The rest of the time, they provide for their family and find OTHER jobs they can like which pay more.

If you have the freedom to live on $7 an hour, think about your future, too, since you will need to make plans for retirement, invest in it, and giving of yourself to other people and other causes.

Even a great "dream job" can have its bad days, and being poor is not a fun way to spend an entire life when you have been given so much education to share with the world that needs people like you.

All my opinions, and you should do what you really want to, as long as you have considered all the angles.

[Louise]

That is a tricky position you are in Gibby. Could you possibly take the part time job just to satisfy your desire to work in rescuing animals? That would free you up to maybe look for a second job in whatever area you want, how does that sound to you? What are the hours for part time work, do you know?

[F~M]

You know what, gibby?

You should've gone to vet school. Auburn University has an excellent one, just up the road from me.

Of course, since you're moving to Deleware, it would be a rough commute. But, I have an extra bedroom or two if you're interested. ;)

[workn2hard2day]

I wish you well in your decision. My experience with the local SPCA is the people who work there are under paid, over worked & under appriciated. I foster mom & kittens - so I am in & out often. More than often I witness "customers" (on the phone line) being rude, demanding, and plain
@-holes. I have witnessed various members of the staff crying after getting off of calls. However, everrytime I go back the same people are still there. So I think that they must GET something out of this job because they keep coming back. They amaze me it is a job I could not do.

[gibbrishclown]

I was asked and asked about vet school. I'm not into it. I want to save them differently. I understand that more animals are killed yearly by our shelter systems than are really killed by disease etc... i just want to be a part of that solution. I want to preach SPEUTERING to everyone who'll listen. I want to help with behavior problems that get dogs kicked out of their homes and sent to shelters. I want to prevent the next dog on kid attack by teaching owners how to control and train their dogs.

I will have the benefit of a significant other to pay the real bills. I don't want him to have to work harder or go without because I want to take an entry level job though. I'm leaving all that I have and moving into his house, I'll help with his bills, but I won't really have any of my own outside of me and my pets. That is one plus, but you're right, I won't be saving anything. And would it make me feel less worthy or like I had less of a voice if I made so substantially less than he? IDK about that, because I already make substantially less than he makes, but this new job would be even less than what I make now. I definitely need to talk to him about this, but he's on a plane.

I'd like to only have one full time job so that I could be with my bf when he's off work, but I could consider a part and a full time job if that's what it takes. I can't foster anymore when I live in his house, so I do want to work with rescue if I can. I can volunteer, but honestly there's only so much time in each day, and if I'm going to work a job and a half and volunteer, it's going to be tough to take care of my own 4 dogs (with no yard) my cat and my bf...

[sciencegirl]

I was asked and asked about vet school. I'm not into it. I want to save them differently. I understand that more animals are killed yearly by our shelter systems than are really killed by disease etc... i just want to be a part of that solution. I want to preach SPEUTERING to everyone who'll listen. I want to help with behavior problems that get dogs kicked out of their homes and sent to shelters. I want to prevent the next dog on kid attack by teaching owners how to control and train their dogs.

I will have the benefit of a significant other to pay the real bills. I don't want him to have to work harder or go without because I want to take an entry level job though. I'm leaving all that I have and moving into his house, I'll help with his bills, but I won't really have any of my own outside of me and my pets. That is one plus, but you're right, I won't be saving anything. And would it make me feel less worthy or like I had less of a voice if I made so substantially less than he? IDK about that, because I already make substantially less than he makes, but this new job would be even less than what I make now. I definitely need to talk to him about this, but he's on a plane.

I'd like to only have one full time job so that I could be with my bf when he's off work, but I could consider a part and a full time job if that's what it takes. I can't foster anymore when I live in his house, so I do want to work with rescue if I can. I can volunteer, but honestly there's only so much time in each day, and if I'm going to work a job and a half and volunteer, it's going to be tough to take care of my own 4 dogs (with no yard) my cat and my bf...


Tough decision; but it would be an easy one for me. Don't rely on what your partner earns. Be independent and make your own way in life; with him or without him. You never know, if you will be without him. Men do strange things; even if you were married. Just because you are giving up everything and moving in with him; DON'T lose your own independence and your reliance on him for money. JMHO

ETA: Take care of your dogs and your cat. Your boyfriend can take care of himself. Just love your boyfriend. You're not his caretaker.

Um...guess it sounds like I have a negative attitutude towards men; but I speak from experience.

[F~M]

Tough decision; but it would be an easy one for me. Don't rely on what your partner earns. Be independent and make your own way in life; with him or without him. You never know, if you will be without him. Men do strange things; even if you were married. Just because you are giving up everything and moving in with him; DON'T lose your own independence and your reliance on him for money. JMHO

This is so true, SG.

I lost my mind for a moment, gibby and told you to go for it. SG's response is actually more like what I normally would've told you. I think I had a brain fart.

[gibbrishclown]

This is so true, SG.

I lost my mind for a moment, gibby and told you to go for it. SG's response is actually more like what I normally would've told you. I think I had a brain fart.
I was a bit surprised by your initial response too FM... hehe... you're usually such a realist not the sort to tell me just what I wanna hear... and I definitely do want to hear that I can work that low paying job and it's all worth it because it's what I want to do... but is that the truth? I am already giving up so much.. namely about half an acre of fenced in dog space!! Oh and proximity to my family, my house, my full time stable job... much much stuff. Would that coupled with working a job that pays less than my gas station job back in IOWA paid make me feel inferior... or worse, make him view me as such!

This was the cool thing about being single... I made my decisions based on me and I was the only one that had to deal with them.

[F~M]

I was a bit surprised by your initial response too FM... hehe... you're usually such a realist not the sort to tell me just what I wanna hear... and I definitely do want to hear that I can work that low paying job and it's all worth it because it's what I want to do... but is that the truth? I am already giving up so much.. namely about half an acre of fenced in dog space!! Oh and proximity to my family, my house, my full time stable job... much much stuff. Would that coupled with working a job that pays less than my gas station job back in IOWA paid make me feel inferior... or worse, make him view me as such!

This was the cool thing about being single... I made my decisions based on me and I was the only one that had to deal with them.

I have no idea what happened to me. I think someone had entered my head when I posted that. hehe

Okay.. let's break it down. Not even thinking about the normal household items that are required (groceries, utilities, etc.)

Are you gonna have the money to buy clothes when you need them? Toiletries? make-up? Perfume? Vet bills? Cell phone bill?

I just pulled those off the top of my head (I guess you can see where my priorities are). Anyway, if you won't have the money to buy these things on your own, you need a real job.

Who wants to ask their bf for money to buy those things? "Honey, can I have a few bucks, I need tampons?"

It's different with me being married. All of our money goes into the same pot. But, not being married. I dunno.

I remember one time a few weeks before we got married. I was still in college, struggling financially, but on the cusp of graduating. I was sick and didn't have the money to buy my medication. I had to ask hubby (bf at the time) for the money. It was embarrassing.

Am I making any sense, or just rambling?

I think I'm rambling. :rolleyes:

[Louise]

I was a bit surprised by your initial response too FM... hehe... you're usually such a realist not the sort to tell me just what I wanna hear... and I definitely do want to hear that I can work that low paying job and it's all worth it because it's what I want to do... but is that the truth? I am already giving up so much.. namely about half an acre of fenced in dog space!! Oh and proximity to my family, my house, my full time stable job... much much stuff. Would that coupled with working a job that pays less than my gas station job back in IOWA paid make me feel inferior... or worse, make him view me as such!

This was the cool thing about being single... I made my decisions based on me and I was the only one that had to deal with them.


You need to think about long term issues when thinking about what sort of job you will have and both of you should think about where you will live as you have given up so much by moving out to where you are going to but what if things didn't work out with him in the long run, what will you do then? You can't keep being the only one to give up things, a relationship will only work properly when both persons make sacrifices. It seems to me that you have been the only one to sacrifice all that you hold dear. Compromise is the key to making any relationship work.

[sciencegirl]

I was a bit surprised by your initial response too FM... hehe... you're usually such a realist not the sort to tell me just what I wanna hear... and I definitely do want to hear that I can work that low paying job and it's all worth it because it's what I want to do... but is that the truth? I am already giving up so much.. namely about half an acre of fenced in dog space!! Oh and proximity to my family, my house, my full time stable job... much much stuff. Would that coupled with working a job that pays less than my gas station job back in IOWA paid make me feel inferior... or worse, make him view me as such!

This was the cool thing about being single... I made my decisions based on me and I was the only one that had to deal with them.

May I butt in here and ask you how old you are and how long you have been with your bf?

Let's step away from the money issue for now. You keep bringing up EVERYTHING you are giving up for him. I realize women do this all the time to relocate to where there bf is; but I'm almost getting the impression; that you're really not all that thrilled to be giving EVERYTHING up; or you wouldn't keep mentioning it. How long have you thought about this decision. I hope at least six months to a year. Men are strange creatures. He may well tell you that he will take care of most everything (money-wise); but just remember; you have just given him some control over you and your life. He may well like it that way. You just don't know. I'm sure he is the love of your life; and I'm not being critical of him; just asking you to think and be careful. Empower yourself as a woman, you don't need a man to pay your bills. If you can pay half; then fine. But, you need your own spending money in YOUR pocket; not his.

I was with the love of my life for 5 years. We didn't live together; but we loved each other desparately. And, then one day; without warning, he simply walked away. Yes, he was my soulmate. At least I thought at the time he was. Thankfully, we didn't marry or live together. When he left me; I still owned my own home; had a great job; money in the bank; some IRA's, stocks and mutual funds and a retirement package. I just suffered the broken heart; but was easily able to function as a single person again.

[sciencegirl]

You need to think about long term issues when thinking about what sort of job you will have and both of you should think about where you will live as you have given up so much by moving out to where you are going to but what if things didn't work out with him in the long run, what will you do then? You can't keep being the only one to give up things, a relationship will only work properly when both persons make sacrifices. It seems to me that you have been the only one to sacrifice all that you hold dear. Compromise is the key to making any relationship work.


Another very good point!!!!

[maryhaze]

YOU ARE HERE!!!!!!!!!!:s1gyahoo: the job will look good on your resume, but i agree about not depending on your boyfriend for support. you just never know what goes on in their heads, but i'll always have a job for you if this doesn't work out!:friends3:

[Cat]

I wish you well in your decision. My experience with the local SPCA is the people who work there are under paid, over worked & under appriciated. I foster mom & kittens - so I am in & out often. More than often I witness "customers" (on the phone line) being rude, demanding, and plain
@-holes. I have witnessed various members of the staff crying after getting off of calls. However, everrytime I go back the same people are still there. So I think that they must GET something out of this job because they keep coming back. They amaze me it is a job I could not do.


I tried to work for our local shelter some years back. I lasted almost a whole two weeks. It broke my heart. I couldn't stand that all the animals didn't get a home. I know their spirits go on (just like us), but I am just too tender.

[animallady]

Hi Gib,:0012:

Your post really touched me. Such an absolute dilemma! The pros & cons are just about equal.

You have wonderful personal qualities (i can tell), experience, expertise, and an excellent education. By golly, you should be able to make a decent living!! Just wondering: Do you know yet what your specific duties include/exclude, your hours (any flexibility, vacation, days off), or your benefits are? IMHO, benefits are more important than ever. In the "olden days" paid health insurance was a given with employment. NOT SO NOW!:puke: Even assuming that you are a "young" lady, insurance = money.

And, of course, you have your own furbabes to consider. Maintenance vet care is expensive and we know that ER-vet visits are outrageously costly.
Give me a presidential candidate for tax deductions for furbabes & autos and I'll vote for him/her. Lo, :1187603408.CR.Mothe woe is me.

Several years ago, I had an job opportunity similar to the one you have now. I wanted to serve-help people in need, and was offered a position with an internationally-known org. dedicated to improving life in 3rd world countries. At that time I advised that probably would not be able to stay long due to the low salary. They told me they understood and hired me despite. Well, I "went in the hole" early on but determined to stay a year. That was all I could give. And although I've never regretted that job, it did not include the "hands on" duties I envisioned. Mostly administrative.

Have you ever worked for yourself; training, for instance? I would hire you in a minute! Pet nannies can make good money. I know this for a fact!
Just trying to offer ways you could supplement your income if you take the job. They would be very lucky to have you.

Good luck and please let us know:happy0158:

[PatC]

I tried to work for our local shelter some years back. I lasted almost a whole two weeks. It broke my heart. I couldn't stand that all the animals didn't get a home. I know their spirits go on (just like us), but I am just too tender.

Good point, Cat. Knowing what happens on a daily basis... even in a no kill shelter... and living with it day in and day out are two separate things. Not every one can do it. I don't think I could on a long term basis.

Gibby, one thing I did NOT see in your posts is any reference to your discussing this with your bf. What is his position? Listen not to just his words, but the undertones. I'm afraid if you give up your financial independence you'll regret it and eventually resent your bf over it. You're taking on a huge job trying to relocate four dogs to a location with no yard. That's going to be a B I G adjustment for all of you.

Do you have to decide immediately or can you get moved and set up a daily routine before you have to make the decision? If that's possible, it'd be my recommendation. You need a realistic experience of your new living arrangements before you can realistically decide how much time you have for work outside the house, e.g., two jobs.

Whatever you decide, you know your Aunt PatC wishes you the very best.

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[gibbrishclown]

I tried to work for our local shelter some years back. I lasted almost a whole two weeks. It broke my heart. I couldn't stand that all the animals didn't get a home. I know their spirits go on (just like us), but I am just too tender. This is a limited entry, no kill shelter, or I wouldn't be able to do it either. I'm not strong like those people. I've never been in a kill shelter and I never want to go. i'd be happy to send someone in to get me someone to save or rescue from another rescue, but I don't want to know what it feels like to be in a kill shelter. Call me a wuss, it's the truth.

YOU ARE HERE!!!!!!!!!!:s1gyahoo: the job will look good on your resume, but i agree about not depending on your boyfriend for support. you just never know what goes on in their heads, but i'll always have a job for you if this doesn't work out!:friends3: And that's one consideration! I could just work here and get to know folks in the field and maybe pimp my services on the side to adoptive parents... IDK if this place offers benefits, has a non-compete, anything... it's just preliminary consideration I'm at right now... working for you would be AWESOME TOO... Know anyone in this area?
May I butt in here and ask you how old you are and how long you have been with your bf?

Let's step away from the money issue for now. You keep bringing up EVERYTHING you are giving up for him. I realize women do this all the time to relocate to where there bf is; but I'm almost getting the impression; that you're really not all that thrilled to be giving EVERYTHING up; or you wouldn't keep mentioning it. How long have you thought about this decision. I hope at least six months to a year. Men are strange creatures. He may well tell you that he will take care of most everything (money-wise); but just remember; you have just given him some control over you and your life. He may well like it that way. You just don't know. I'm sure he is the love of your life; and I'm not being critical of him; just asking you to think and be careful. Empower yourself as a woman, you don't need a man to pay your bills. If you can pay half; then fine. But, you need your own spending money in YOUR pocket; not his.

I was with the love of my life for 5 years. We didn't live together; but we loved each other desparately. And, then one day; without warning, he simply walked away. Yes, he was my soulmate. At least I thought at the time he was. Thankfully, we didn't marry or live together. When he left me; I still owned my own home; had a great job; money in the bank; some IRA's, stocks and mutual funds and a retirement package. I just suffered the broken heart; but was easily able to function as a single person again.

:71526: I'm 23, and I've been considering this for a few months... I've known he may be transferred since early September, but the plans for me to join him didn't start till October. I know it seems like a brief courtship, but it makes sense to everyone who sees it in real life is about the only thing that actually matters to me.

I am giving up a lot to be with him. He's going to have to make some changes also when I get up there. For instance, he's going to have 3 extra dogs and a cat. He doesn't care for cats, but it was never even a question that if I went with him, so did my pets. I can't foster cats anymore, but to be fair they can be messy and it's not my house anymore. It's his. These are facts, not a complaint. I want to be with him and a few changes were probably around the corner for me anyway... maybe not so significant ones, but changes nonetheless. Aanyway, this is about a job, not about my relationship. :flirt99:

[Cat]

Gibbrish, I haven't been at the shelter in a very long time. There is only one no-kill shelter in this area quite a few miles from us, and they are always filled to capacity. It was started by a young woman and her family.

As to your decision, go with your heart and intelligence.

[PatC]

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I can't foster cats anymore, but to be fair they can be messy and it's not my house anymore. It's his. These are facts, not a complaint. I want to be with him and a few changes were probably around the corner for me anyway... maybe not so significant ones, but changes nonetheless. Aanyway, this is about a job, not about my relationship. :flirt99:


it's not my house anymore. It's his. That bothers me, Gibby. Once you move in and become an official "couple", you should be able to think of the house as "ours", not "his".

Not that I'm recommending you insist on more cats just to flex your ownership, you understand, I'm just talking about "mind set" here.

:basic45:

[gibbrishclown]

I'd' better educate myself better about no-kill shelters and how many they actually do kill, because that'd be a big downer for me, PatC, you're right... I can get over the 20 year old cancer ridden pooch who's owner just died too and the family dumps it... or even if I had to, the ones that attack people although I think they can be rehabbed with enough time etc.

My bf is very busy anyway, but he's on a plane right now... I'm just trying to think it through some and bounce it off people before I talk to him about it... it's such an exciting prospect that I'd be able to make even this piddly amount in a rescue setting! It's all in the very early stages, nothing is set in stone! And no, i don't have to jump on it immediately, but I am so freaked out about not having a job that any lead is really exciting to me too. It does sound like there will be a lot of options for me when I get up there... some are further away and some are low pay, but who knows what they could lead to or what else I may find.

I have never worked for myself. I have volunteered with a few foster dogs and have experience through that, and I have visited a handful of others to help with their pets, but nothing professional at all. I am concerned about the insurances etc necessary to have my own business and would rather work for someone and learn for a year or more because I don't t hink I know enough yet, I want a mentor of some sort to run to when things are confusing to me.

pat, his dog is used to living in an apartment, and my dogs are 3,4, and 5 and are slowing down nicely. Mine listen off leash and are great to take to a park and play ball. I know I can make anything work with mine. His dog is a work in progress with regards to me and respect, but is perfect with him.

I know that the house will be 'ours' but it's all his money going into it, it's his house. He's not going to mistreat me or tell me what to do in HIS house etc, but it is his house. My cat and I are kinda glad we'll only have the one cat. Taz likes her breed specific formula and her peace from other cats. i like the fact that my bf's dog gets along with Taz (but chases other cats) and there's only one litter box... besides, taz is far cooler as an only child. :yes2:

(eta: he is going to tell me about the cats, but that's because he's not willing to live with a bunch of cats, and he didn't like it much when they were just at my house, that's not an issue... you get what I'm saying though)

[sciencegirl]

This is a limited entry, no kill shelter, or I wouldn't be able to do it either. I'm not strong like those people. I've never been in a kill shelter and I never want to go. i'd be happy to send someone in to get me someone to save or rescue from another rescue, but I don't want to know what it feels like to be in a kill shelter. Call me a wuss, it's the truth.

And that's one consideration! I could just work here and get to know folks in the field and maybe pimp my services on the side to adoptive parents... IDK if this place offers benefits, has a non-compete, anything... it's just preliminary consideration I'm at right now... working for you would be AWESOME TOO... Know anyone in this area?


:71526: I'm 23, and I've been considering this for a few months... I've known he may be transferred since early September, but the plans for me to join him didn't start till October. I know it seems like a brief courtship, but it makes sense to everyone who sees it in real life is about the only thing that actually matters to me.

I am giving up a lot to be with him. He's going to have to make some changes also when I get up there. For instance, he's going to have 3 extra dogs and a cat. He doesn't care for cats, but it was never even a question that if I went with him, so did my pets. I can't foster cats anymore, but to be fair they can be messy and it's not my house anymore. It's his. These are facts, not a complaint. I want to be with him and a few changes were probably around the corner for me anyway... maybe not so significant ones, but changes nonetheless. Aanyway, this is about a job, not about my relationship. :flirt99:


This is everything about your relationship. Did you hear what you just said. It's his house. NO, it isn't. If you're living with him; it is your house also. I know you don't like what I'm saying; but I feel bad for you that all you want for your self is a bf and a minimum wage job; even if it's your dream job. I'll leave it at that and be gone. :022::022::022:

[gibbrishclown]

This is everything about your relationship. Did you hear what you just said. It's his house. NO, it isn't. If you're living with him; it is your house also. I know you don't like what I'm saying; but I feel bad for you that all you want for your self is a bf and a minimum wage job; even if it's your dream job. I'll leave it at that and be gone. :022::022::022:

that's your perception :z0tdntknw:

[Louise]

I am giving up a lot to be with him. He's going to have to make some changes also when I get up there. For instance, he's going to have 3 extra dogs and a cat. He doesn't care for cats, but it was never even a question that if I went with him, so did my pets. I can't foster cats anymore, but to be fair they can be messy and it's not my house anymore. It's his. These are facts, not a complaint. I want to be with him and a few changes were probably around the corner for me anyway... maybe not so significant ones, but changes nonetheless. Aanyway, this is about a job, not about my relationship. :flirt99:


Gibby, no one here wants to tell you how you should run your life but to all of us that have been in relationships for a long time, it seems like you are the one who is giving up a lot to move in with him there and he is not doing the same. Sure, he is now going to accomodate your pets but that is not as much as you will be doing. That is way more than you should be doing at your age. If things don't work out, will you be able to find somewhere to live or will you go back to the town/city you came from? That is all I will say on this. I hope you make a decision one way or the other about your job situation and that everything goes well for you, I truly mean that.

[F~M]

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[gibbrishclown]

My relationship is not in jeopardy. I was only wanting to talk about my job. Not about my move, not about my relationship... those things are concrete. The next step is my job.

I did not take the decision to move lightly. I have a safety net. That's not the point of this thread though, and I'm thinking this has all gotten too personal. Thank you all for your input on my possible job and for the well wishes.

[F~M]

My relationship is not in jeopardy. I was only wanting to talk about my job. Not about my move, not about my relationship... those things are concrete. The next step is my job.

I did not take the decision to move lightly. I have a safety net. That's not the point of this thread though, and I'm thinking this has all gotten too personal. Thank you all for your input on my possible job and for the well wishes.


Did I say too much?

[F~M]

Louise, will you delete where you quoted me. I just deleted my post. I think I said too much. :(

[gibbrishclown]

Yaay! Fm's got the words I apparently was lacking. He's great, he's my Prince Charming. I'm glad to do what it takes to be with him. He's a perfect balance. We agree on the crap that matters. My mother would have picked him for me. My father would have picked him for me. Everyone around sees how perfect a fit we are. Best of all, we see it. When we're together, there's nothing better.

He likes that I have a huge heart for animals. He likes when I'm passionate about things. he is very much a big strong protector also... always looking out for me. He'll be thrilled if I get this job even if it means extra strain for him... that's why I want to think it all the way through and weigh it out fully.

Thank you FM ♥

[gibbrishclown]

Did I say too much?


no I saw your post after I posted that. I jsut want to talk abotu my job, but I think now we've painted the right picture... since I did such a pisspoor job of it myself... we're cool FM!!!

[Louise]

Louise, will you delete where you quoted me. I just deleted my post. I think I said too much. :(

I just deleted my whole post too. It was great that you said what you did as I have changed my view on things.

I wish you all the best Gibby and I am sure you will be fine.
:love0085:

[PatC]

no I saw your post after I posted that. I jsut want to talk abotu my job, but I think now we've painted the right picture... since I did such a pisspoor job of it myself... we're cool FM!!!

It sounds to me like you're in no danger of doing anything terribly WRONG either for yourself, your bf or your animals. (No surprise here, you've always struck me as a young woman with her head screwed down tightly in place.) I understand you're excited about the prospect of finding a job even before you get moved and I would be too! I guess the best advise I can give is to just give yourself time to adjust before you make any hard and fast job commitments. Maybe you could suggest to them you'd take the position with the understanding that it'll be a probationary time for you both. With you new to the area I'd bet they'd understand and go along with that.

[F~M]

I felt like I had done gone and said too much. Didn't want my little girl upset with me.

Thanks, Louise. :friends3:

[Louise]

I felt like I had done gone and said too much. Didn't want my little girl upset with me.

Thanks, Louise. :friends3:

:friends3:

[Noahs ARK]

Gibby ~ I think you should take the job. If it doesn't work out (for whatever reason - money or emotional issues working at the shelter), then you can quit and find something else. You won't know until you give it a try, right?

You won't regret it if you TRY. But you might regret it if you DON'T try. Give it a shot, Girl!! :friends3:

[proud irish]

GIBBY!!!!! It's been a long time. Delaware??? It gets pretty cold up there, doesn't it? ha! I hope that you find all of the happiness in the world up there and with him. If this is the job that you want and you think you can make ends meet, by all means, GO FOR IT! Like Noah's Ark said, if you find that it won't work, you will find something else.:friends3:

....how does the beau feel about snakes? :basic45:

[gibbrishclown]

It sounds to me like you're in no danger of doing anything terribly WRONG either for yourself, your bf or your animals. (No surprise here, you've always struck me as a young woman with her head screwed down tightly in place.) I understand you're excited about the prospect of finding a job even before you get moved and I would be too! I guess the best advise I can give is to just give yourself time to adjust before you make any hard and fast job commitments. Maybe you could suggest to them you'd take the position with the understanding that it'll be a probationary time for you both. With you new to the area I'd bet they'd understand and go along with that.
Thanks Pat. I bet this woman would understand me wanting to do it until something better came along. She told me she understood that they couldn't pay very much etc. and actually gave me some other leads with other animal related jobs. She said that a receptionist at a vet clinic probably does a little better and they're always hiring etc. so I bet she'd work with me :)
I just deleted my whole post too. It was great that you said what you did as I have changed my view on things.

I wish you all the best Gibby and I am sure you will be fine.
Thanks Louise, you didn't have to do that... I didn't mean anything about FM's post- I saw that after I posted. And I'm sorry if I was harsh in general.

I felt like I had done gone and said too much. Didn't want my little girl upset with me.

Thanks, Louise.
Not upset with you in da least! :friends3:
Gibby ~ I think you should take the job. If it doesn't work out (for whatever reason - money or emotional issues working at the shelter), then you can quit and find something else. You won't know until you give it a try, right?

You won't regret it if you TRY. But you might regret it if you DON'T try. Give it a shot, Girl!! :happy0158: I also wonder if this couldn't be a great spring board or even a way to meet people to train dogs for on the side, or petsit for..." oh you know, Gibby that works at the humane society? She watches fluffer for us when we travel" or 'taught us how to integrate our newly adopted pet into our home in only 2 visits' hahaha maaaaybe not, but why not set the goals high? heh. Who knows how I could do... I may even do better on a side job like that than at my 'real' job at the shelter... btu then again, I dont' know if for some reason they'll want me to sign a non compete that precludes me from doing any of this stuff while I'm working for them. Hope not, but I spose it could happen.

GIBBY!!!!! It's been a long time. Delaware??? It gets pretty cold up there, doesn't it? ha! I hope that you find all of the happiness in the world up there and with him. If this is the job that you want and you think you can make ends meet, by all means, GO FOR IT! Like Noah's Ark said, if you find that it won't work, you will find something else.

....how does the beau feel about snakes?
Funny story about the snakes... before they went to that other guy's house, they were in my bedroom as you may recall. This is not too long after I started seeing my bf... he'd seen the boy snake because I'd fed him the mousecicles etc one night in front of him, but he'd not seen Irish yet- he later fed her for me and that was one of the funniest things I've ever witnessed :67302: he was miserable about the mice :67302: anyway... He actually mentioned they'd not met and I took him into my room to meet her, and that's the first time he kissed me. He actually couldn't care less about the snakes, he used your namesake as a means to get closer to me :happy0158: You would have been proud, Irish. heh.

[elroh6]

My relationship is not in jeopardy. I was only wanting to talk about my job. Not about my move, not about my relationship... those things are concrete. The next step is my job.

I did not take the decision to move lightly. I have a safety net. That's not the point of this thread though, and I'm thinking this has all gotten too personal. Thank you all for your input on my possible job and for the well wishes.Well, the safety net is very important, and should play a part in your decision. I've always had a safety net, and that has allowed me to take some risks that I wouldn't have otherwise been able to experience. I think you should listen to whatever your inner self is saying to you. She is right, and you know it.

[gibbrishclown]

Well, the safety net is very important, and should play a part in your decision. I've always had a safety net, and that has allowed me to take some risks that I wouldn't have otherwise been able to experience. I think you should listen to whatever your inner self is saying to you. She is right, and you know it.

Surely couldn't hurt to take an interview :basic45:

[elroh6]

Surely couldn't hurt to take an interview :basic45:Yeah, really! If it turns out to not be right, you can always go back, right? The b/f will still be there, if he's for real, and it sounds like he is. What about the sister? Will your dogs be ok with a move?

[gibbrishclown]

Yeah, really! If it turns out to not be right, you can always go back, right? The b/f will still be there, if he's for real, and it sounds like he is. What about the sister? Will your dogs be ok with a move?
Sis went to law school and will have to take on care of her dog when I move. My dogs moved from Iowa, Proof and Taz to Iowa and back once, I'm not worried about them. Bella already moved from up there recently! If this job doesn't work I'll just find another one up there. I tend to interview well for these sorts of positions and with my resume and recommends I have faith I'll find something... ideally something animal related.

[elroh6]

Sis went to law school and will have to take on care of her dog when I move. My dogs moved from Iowa, Proof and Taz to Iowa and back once, I'm not worried about them. Bella already moved from up there recently! If this job doesn't work I'll just find another one up there. I tend to interview well for these sorts of positions and with my resume and recommends I have faith I'll find something... ideally something animal related.you'll be fine. Being a good interviewee is invaluable. I have to brag on myself...I'm a great interviewee. I can pretty much talk my way into any job. I'd bet you're the same, especially if it has anything to do with animals. You're so knowlegeable (sp).

[gibbrishclown]

you'll be fine. Being a good interviewee is invaluable. I have to brag on myself...I'm a great interviewee. I can pretty much talk my way into any job. I'd bet you're the same, especially if it has anything to do with animals. You're so knowlegeable (sp).

Thank you. :basic45:

[proud irish]

See!!! I just love that snake!!!

Whatever you decide, you take good care of yourself, Gib!!

[gibbrishclown]

See!!! I just love that snake!!!

Whatever you decide, you take good care of yourself, Gib!!

Thanks, PI :hifive:

[Noahs ARK]

:happy0158: I also wonder if this couldn't be a great spring board or even a way to meet people to train dogs for on the side, or petsit for..." oh you know, Gibby that works at the humane society? She watches fluffer for us when we travel" or 'taught us how to integrate our newly adopted pet into our home in only 2 visits' hahaha maaaaybe not, but why not set the goals high? heh. Who knows how I could do... I may even do better on a side job like that than at my 'real' job at the shelter... btu then again, I dont' know if for some reason they'll want me to sign a non compete that precludes me from doing any of this stuff while I'm working for them. Hope not, but I spose it could happen.


Yep - it could be. I thought of that, too. I can't imagine them not allowing you to do pet sitting or training. We had a woman at our shelter that trained just german shepards. She was wonderful! She worked part-time and did dog training the rest of the time.

Any good things that you do outside the shelter will generate more activity at the shelter - so it could be a win-win situation for everyone. Word of mouth.....!! They may even allow you to have busines cards printed up or little brochures - put 'em on the front counter or they could include 'em in the adoption packages.

The possibilities are there, Gibby ~~ gooooooooooo, Girl!! :zm10:

[gibbrishclown]

Yep - it could be. I thought of that, too. I can't imagine them not allowing you to do pet sitting or training. We had a woman at our shelter that trained just german shepards. She was wonderful! She worked part-time and did dog training the rest of the time.

Any good things that you do outside the shelter will generate more activity at the shelter - so it could be a win-win situation for everyone. Word of mouth.....!! They may even allow you to have busines cards printed up or little brochures - put 'em on the front counter or they could include 'em in the adoption packages.

The possibilities are there, Gibby ~~ gooooooooooo, Girl!! :zm10:

:hifive: I'll take that interview. I might not be up there this week though. My grandmother died last night and my parents won't be in town to help us load the Uhaul. They asked if we could wait till next weekend. We don't really want to wait, but we'll see how things go. :) either way, I'll interview when I do get established.

[maryhaze]

oh honey, i'm so sorry about your grandmother. i'll light a candle for your family.:1222423:

[Noahs ARK]

Oh Gibby ~~ I'm so sorry about your grandmother. :1222423:

[proud irish]

Gibs.... I'm so sorry about your Grandma.... ((hugs)) to you.

[Jazz]

:hifive: I'll take that interview. I might not be up there this week though. My grandmother died last night and my parents won't be in town to help us load the Uhaul. They asked if we could wait till next weekend. We don't really want to wait, but we'll see how things go. :) either way, I'll interview when I do get established.

:1222423:

God Bless you and your family.
Stay safe.

[animallady]

Sincerest sympathy for the loss of your grandmother. You have so much on your plate. Stay safe.

[PatC]

:hifive: I'll take that interview. I might not be up there this week though. My grandmother died last night and my parents won't be in town to help us load the Uhaul. They asked if we could wait till next weekend. We don't really want to wait, but we'll see how things go. :) either way, I'll interview when I do get established.

Oh, Gibby, I'm so sorry about your grandmother.

Whatever you decide I'm sure it'll be the right thing for you. Be sure to let us know how it goes.

Ya know we loves ya.

PatC

[5boxersmom]

Sorry about your grandma gibby. :1222423:

[gibbrishclown]

Thanks guys. It's always sad when someone dies. It's very hard especially on my grandpa and aunts, uncles, and father, of course. She was the mother of 5. Grandma had either fallen and broken her hip or turned wrong and broken her him (then fallen) at a funeral this week. She had this big nasty surgery with partial hip replacement etc the day she passed and she expressed a great deal of pain after the operation, although they tell me she was quite groggy even after she 'woke up' from surgery. She was facing a lengthy and nasty rehab process, plus she was still on the mend from a broken tail bone earlier this year. She was going to have little shot at living independently again, which was always important to her. Grandpa has been in a nursing home, we were told to say good bye to him in October, but he's still fighting. I do wonder how long he'll keep fighting though now that his bride of 60+ years is waiting for him. Given that she was 86 and spent all 86 of her years as a wonderful, lead-by-example Mennonite woman I think there's likely no one ever more prepared for death than Grandma. In that way, I'm kinda happy for her and glad that she didn't have to go through all the rehabilitation... at some point she just went into cardiac arrest and headed on to Heaven. It feels pretty wrong not to be able to go pay my respects, but I think everyone (inc. Grandma) understands my situation and that I would have been there if I could be.

:1222423: For one of the most wonderful women I've ever known

[DDawg]

Gibby, I just now found this thread. So sorry to hear about your grandma.

It can't hurt to interview for that job. I'd suggest looking around some and seeing what all is available before committing. You may find something you like just as much that pays better.

[Rangerx1]

Just found this thread myself. I know, I'm late! First, so sorry to hear about your grandmother. Always rough times when family members pass.

As for the job, I'd be interested to hear what has happened or how things are going. I'm single myself, so while I love working with animals, it's not financially possible for me to switch positions at this point in my life. I choose to volunteer as I can, but even that is getting rough. Full time work and sometimes night work and 3 of my own dogs that need time also. Luckily my after hours work is all from home as I'm in IT support, so I can be home with the pups. I find the issues that can arise with relationships and the changes that need to be made interesting. I think for me, relationships just seem to end early since if she wasn't someone that could put up with my dogs and volunteering in the first place, it didn't last long enough to get to the point of making further plans of being together. Ah well, guess I'm an old dog that doesn't learn new tricks well. :)

Good luck with your decisions and I hope it all works out. I wish I could say go for the job that makes you happy, but life has taught me that sometimes the job with the annoyances enables me to do the things I want to outside of work more easily and be happy there. Oh, and sorry if someone has already said this. I read the first couple pages then skipped to the end. Yes, I'm as bad as my puppy at keeping my attention for long!!!

[DDawg]

So Gibby... don't leave us hangin'! What happened?

[maryhaze]

isn't she in the middle of moving right now? i thought we wouldn't be hearing from her for a bit.