What is the official age for getting old?

[FLYSODA]

They say that the 50's is the new 40's. I'm 51 and want to know when middle age is official. I don't feel old or look old. I'm healthy and can do about anything. But since I've turned 50 there is a definate differance in how your treated. You can be talking to some guy and getting along fine. Once he finds out your age he splits like a banana. What's up with that? Anyone know?

[KellyO]

Life expectancy in this day and age is approximately 77 years old (according to wikipedia). So technically, middle age is about 38 years old.

[RoseNylund]

They say that the 50's is the new 40's. I'm 51 and want to know when middle age is official. I don't feel old or look old. I'm healthy and can do about anything. But since I've turned 50 there is a definate differance in how your treated. You can be talking to some guy and getting along fine. Once he finds out your age he splits like a banana. What's up with that? Anyone know?

I'm with someone 15 years older than I, so I may be a bit biased. I personally feel that it depends on the situation. I go with the cliche of "It's not how old you are, but how young you feel." Some people age prematurely (not physically, but mentally), and others who stay "forever young." It really depends on the person. Self-doubt and self-defeat are the greatest causes of premature aging, imo.

If a guy bails as soon as hearing your age, then it's clear he's staying "forever young" - but in a bad way (i.e. not progressing past high school mentality). Stick with dating, and eventually you will find a guy who appreciates you for you - not for an arbitrary number (age) he's looking for.

[LiveLaughLuv]

They say that the 50's is the new 40's. I'm 51 and want to know when middle age is official. I don't feel old or look old. I'm healthy and can do about anything. But since I've turned 50 there is a definate differance in how your treated. You can be talking to some guy and getting along fine. Once he finds out your age he splits like a banana. What's up with that? Anyone know?

Age is only a number, you are as old as you feel. I married a man 11 years my junior. I really was afraid to marry him due to our age difference. He always told me, age is only a number. Happy to say, 17 years later, we still use that expression.

I am now 54, I think around 40ish is when middle age begins. Around 42 is when things started to change for me. My eyesight changed, menopause began, my patience started to dwindle and body changes. :1187603408.CR.Mothe

If someone darts away from you due to age, I'd say he did you a favor. :022:

"Age" should have nothing to do with a relationship as long as you are of legal age. Then anything goes.

[Ross]

Age is only a number, you are as old as you feel. I married a man 11 years my junior. I really was afraid to marry him due to our age difference. He always told me, age is only a number. Happy to say, 17 years later, we still use that expression.

I am now 54, I think around 40ish is when middle age begins. Around 42 is when things started to change for me. My eyesight changed, menopause began, my patience started to dwindle and body changes. :1187603408.CR.Mothe

If someone darts away from you due to age, I'd say he did you a favor. :022:

"Age" should have nothing to do with a relationship as long as you are of legal age. Then anything goes.


Yep i too believe age is just a #.Some people just think because they turned 50 ,or older that they must sit around on a rocking chair & read the paper .
I believe you get on your motorcycle & go for it.

[littlewheels]

Yep i too believe age is just a #.Some people just think because they turned 50 ,or older that they must sit around on a rocking chair & read the paper .
I believe you get on your motorcycle & go for it.

Vroom-Vroom! Just be careful, streets are slick! Don't tell me "old" is 50+, I'll really be upset! I don't feel a day over 20, but my kids sure wish "I'd grow out of it". I tell them, "It's just a stage I'm going thru"! :0012: Do those two statements sound familiar to us "aged to perfection posters"? :s1gyahoo:

[Texas53]

I think as long as we can move and are breathing, we aren't old. Age is just a number. IMO:)

[Tracker]

Depends on gender.:71526:

[Rockdog]

Depends on gender.:71526:


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[mood*ring]

Depends on gender.:71526:


:D in general men don't live to be as old as women. so men get old first. :girl_haha: :kidding-01:

[PatC]

Age is only a number, you are as old as you feel. I married a man 11 years my junior. I really was afraid to marry him due to our age difference. He always told me, age is only a number. Happy to say, 17 years later, we still use that expression.

I am now 54, I think around 40ish is when middle age begins. Around 42 is when things started to change for me. My eyesight changed, menopause began, my patience started to dwindle and body changes. :1187603408.CR.Mothe

If someone darts away from you due to age, I'd say he did you a favor. :022:

"Age" should have nothing to do with a relationship as long as you are of legal age. Then anything goes.

Age is a funny thing. When I was in college became engaged to a really wonderful young man who was back from the Army and going to school on the GI Bill. He was 24 and I was 18 when we became engaged. Then he had a birthday, and his friends, mostly ex-GIs like him, threw him a birthday party. Sometime during the evening I overheard someone say, "Well, Dean, how does it feel to be a quarter of century old?" Somehow that "quarter of century old" kept ringing in my ears... and for some reason I decided he was too old for me and broke the engagement not too long after that.

I do remember thinking, however, when I hit that "quarter of century" mark that 25 wasn't all that old after all. :girl_haha:

Remember the TV show "One Day at a Time" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One_Day_at_a_Time)? There was an episode of it that had Bonnie Franklin turning 35 and I remember it was the first time I'd ever heard that, according to the script of the show at least, 35 is "officially middle-aged".

LiveLaughLuv, I'm married to a "younger man" too. Like you, I was reluctant to believe it would work... that was in 1983. We're still together. :faintTHUD:

ETA: I forgot to mention how MUCH younger he is.... He's 14 years younger than I am.

[Louise]

Life expectancy in this day and age is approximately 77 years old (according to wikipedia). So technically, middle age is about 38 years old.

:thud2:

I am now middle aged, I thought I felt old! :girl_haha:

[SaberGal]

So technically, middle age is about 38 years old.

:shock:

[Ross]

Vroom-Vroom! Just be careful, streets are slick! Don't tell me "old" is 50+, I'll really be upset! I don't feel a day over 20, but my kids sure wish "I'd grow out of it". I tell them, "It's just a stage I'm going thru"! :0012: Do those two statements sound familiar to us "aged to perfection posters"? :s1gyahoo:



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[littlewheels]

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Dang, I miss my '86 Virago 1000! She was purdy, red and black! Come to think of it, dang, I miss my '91 Heritage SoftTail 1200. She was purdy too, red and black! Traded 'em in for a family boat! Dang, I miss the boat too! She was purdy too, I called her the beer boat! Oh well, life goes on! At least that's what "they" say! :1187603408.CR.Mothe

[muzz]

Age is nothing but a number... U are only as old as u feel... as far of relationships go... If they run off after finding out Ur age...its their loss... i have found there is nothing wrong with someone older... my current is 22 years older then me... but he will tell ya he feels like he is my age...

its all a state of mind.

[Tam5115]

I'm 45. Somedays I'm like, "OMG, I'm old" Somedays I'm like, "I'm not old at all"

What I can say for sure is that no matter what age you are today, you wake up one day and are 45 and wonder what happened. It happens so fast you can't believe it. Life is short and we don't realize that until we are middle age and face our mortality.

Enjoy your youth cuz it's gone in the blink of an eye. That doesn't mean our lives are over at say, 40, it just means that time goes fast and our twenties are gone before we know it.

If you are in your twenties now... don't look at older people and make fun. You won't believe how quickly you become their age!

Stay young in mind and heart.

[TURBOTHINK]

I don't think much about age any more. When in my teens, I always wanted to be 21. When I was in my 20s, I always wanted to be 35. For some reason that seemed like the "perfect" age. Old enough to be respected for your views but young enough to do anything. After reaching 35, I started looking toward 40, that seemed like the "perfect" age. It seems as if every age I wasn't was the "perfect" age.

My mother who passed away accidentally at 90, always said the "perfect" age was the age you are, was so wise. When she was 88, we traveled the world for a year, and she felt like 88 was the "perfect" age. Watching her over the years taught me the adage "we are only as old as we feel" was so true. I have met many people in their 40s who were much "older" than my mother at 90. They act old, they think old.

Life is fun if you enjoy each day, but so sad if you look forward to something different than you are.

[sevs]

Old is when you forget the words to My Generation.


People try to put us d-down (Talkin' 'bout my generation)
Just because we g-g-get around (Talkin' 'bout my generation)
Things they do look awful c-c-cold (Talkin' 'bout my generation)
Yeah, I hope I die before I get old (Talkin' 'bout my generation)

This is my generation
This is my generation, baby

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[Luke Davis]

Don't trust anyone over 30.

[True2Blues]

Women on both sides of my family live to their mid nineties, and are healthy and active until then. If that's anything to go by, my middle age is probably upon me, or not far ahead.

I remember when I was maybe 5 asking my Grandmother how old she was, and telling her she was so old! She told me she didn't feel old inside. She felt just like she did when she was in her 20's. Now that I'm in my 40's, I know what she meant.

[4thekids]

I'm 45. Somedays I'm like, "OMG, I'm old" Somedays I'm like, "I'm not old at all"

What I can say for sure is that no matter what age you are today, you wake up one day and are 45 and wonder what happened. It happens so fast you can't believe it. Life is short and we don't realize that until we are middle age and face our mortality.

Enjoy your youth cuz it's gone in the blink of an eye. That doesn't mean our lives are over at say, 40, it just means that time goes fast and our twenties are gone before we know it.

If you are in your twenties now... don't look at older people and make fun. You won't believe how quickly you become their age!

Stay young in mind and heart.

Good advice Tam.

You're only as old as you feel is my motto. Still wear my leather riding jacket but don't ride anymore. Love amusement parks but stay away from those dang rollercoasters. I now drive within the speed limit.

Getting older is much safer.

:022:

[rockford2]

right now, 45. Why? because I can't drink coffee anymore. Acid reflux is horrible and only getting worse on me.

I feel old now. :1187603408.CR.Mothe

I love my coffee!!!

[Justme38]

I work in a grade school, and I had a 5yr old come in the other morning, and look at me, and said " today my Mommy is 100yrs old". Needless to say i started laughing, and said Honey, I don't think your mommy is that old, ask her how old she really is when you get home. So the next day she comes in, and Says " I was wrong, Mommy is only 28, but thats still real old". Made me feel ancient, at 38 lol. So depends on who you are asking, but to me, the offical age for getting old, is when you are so wore down, you can't get out of bed in the morning anymore, or you hit 100, which ever comes first.

[Oceanblueeyes]

Age is nothing but a number... U are only as old as u feel... as far of relationships go... If they run off after finding out Ur age...its their loss... i have found there is nothing wrong with someone older... my current is 22 years older then me... but he will tell ya he feels like he is my age...

its all a state of mind.

Right. It is all about one's state of mind. I feel, act and think much younger than I am so therefore most never guess my age or even care.

I can still light my hubby's fire any day of the week.:girl_haha: and he is still the same gorgeous hottie I married with that young, magnetic personality that lights up a room and he has that same firm muscular body. LOL That gives me an incentive for me to stay physically fit so he doesn't make me look bad.

In fact we cut up and laugh so much when we are together our children asks us all the time when are we going to grow up! Of course that just makes us laugh even more. NEVAH!

imoo

[Sara]

I'll be old when I start stuffing kleenex in the sleeves of my shirt. :)

My mom will turn 84 in February. She suffers from dementia and we often kid each other about the age issue.

She doesn't remember our family home any more, but she knows me. Yay.


Merry Christmas, Mummy. :1222423:

[rockford2]

I'll be old when I start stuffing kleenex in the sleeves of my shirt. :)

My mom will turn 84 in February. She suffers from dementia and we often kid each other about the age issue.

She doesn't remember our family home any more, but she knows me. Yay.


Merry Christmas, Mummy. :1222423:

hey, didn't you just cause trouble on mattresspad's thread and then leave skid marks?

You are just a little devil today, aren't ya? :girl_haha:

[Sara]

hey, didn't you just cause trouble on mattresspad's thread and then leave skid marks?

You are just a little devil today, aren't ya? :girl_haha:
With all due respect, Rockford, if you want to discuss that, kindly send me a pm @ either place.

I appreciate your concern.

[GardenGirl]

Hubby gets AARP and Modern Maturity come June. That should be the date for middle age, no?
GG

[KellyO]

NEWSFLASH: If you find yourself saying "Age is just a number" or "Age is just a state of mind"....you're AT LEAST middle aged. You never hear people under 40 saying that, do you? :67302:

Hey, before you get mad at me, I'm 43...so I'm old too. I love life and don't feel middle aged, but I am! Thems the facts!

[rockford2]

NEWSFLASH: If you find yourself saying "Age is just a number" or "Age is just a state of mind"....you're AT LEAST middle aged. You never hear people under 40 saying that, do you? :67302:

Hey, before you get mad at me, I'm 43...so I'm old too. I love life and don't feel middle aged, but I am! Thems the facts!


I just dearly miss this :mornincoffee: in the mornings!! :1187603408.CR.Mothe

I remember the days when I would drink cup after cup after cup.....

so now I feel old because my body is rejecting different things. Spicy food was about 5 years ago, at age 40 and now coffee.

[Chocoholic]

They say that the 50's is the new 40's. I'm 51 and want to know when middle age is official. I don't feel old or look old. I'm healthy and can do about anything. But since I've turned 50 there is a definate differance in how your treated. You can be talking to some guy and getting along fine. Once he finds out your age he splits like a banana. What's up with that? Anyone know?

The older I get the farther I push that line.

I say 150 is old.

[FLYSODA]

I don't think much about age any more. When in my teens, I always wanted to be 21. When I was in my 20s, I always wanted to be 35. For some reason that seemed like the "perfect" age. Old enough to be respected for your views but young enough to do anything. After reaching 35, I started looking toward 40, that seemed like the "perfect" age. It seems as if every age I wasn't was the "perfect" age.

My mother who passed away accidentally at 90, always said the "perfect" age was the age you are, was so wise. When she was 88, we traveled the world for a year, and she felt like 88 was the "perfect" age. Watching her over the years taught me the adage "we are only as old as we feel" was so true. I have met many people in their 40s who were much "older" than my mother at 90. They act old, they think old.

Life is fun if you enjoy each day, but so sad if you look forward to something different than you are.

I found this post to be so much me. I feel the perfect age. Not old, not young but ready and able to do anything I want. I'm sorry about your Mother. The young man I was referring too that I was talking too and he asked my age and when I told him he took off was a weird deal for me and hurt my feelings for these reasons: I was at my Son's home in his garage while he was putting up his Kayakes and his friend was over having a beer in the garage. He used to come to our house and play when he was a kid. Knew I was married and a Grandma. We were just talking in general and I told him my Daughter was coming for Christmas, He then asked my age. I told him and he walked off while I was in med sentance and left. He is 30 years old. Same as my Son. My Son goes, " Mom, what did you do to chase him off?." I said, I told him my age. He goes, That's it? and I said yes. He was just as surprised as I was. He told me not to worry about it, that the guy had turned into a weirdo. But, I thought about it and had lunch with my friend a few days later. She's 53 and is going in for lower face surgery. 2 of her friends just had it done and they look wonderful and took over 10 years off their face. I, in no way will do this. I plan on ageing gracefully. But this obsessed look to be younger really puzzles me. I didn't think anyone would write on this thread and I've learned so much reading through it. Your all beautiful women. Smart. Happy with yourselfs. And that's what I was looking for. Thank you all!

[rockford2]

I found this post to be so much me. I feel the perfect age. Not old, not young but ready and able to do anything I want. I'm sorry about your Mother. The young man I was referring too that I was talking too and he asked my age and when I told him he took off was a weird deal for me and hurt my feelings for these reasons: I was at my Son's home in his garage while he was putting up his Kayakes and his friend was over having a beer in the garage. He used to come to our house and play when he was a kid. Knew I was married and a Grandma. We were just talking in general and I told him my Daughter was coming for Christmas, He then asked my age. I told him and he walked off while I was in med sentance and left. He is 30 years old. Same as my Son. My Son goes, " Mom, what did you do to chase him off?." I said, I told him my age. He goes, That's it? and I said yes. He was just as surprised as I was. He told me not to worry about it, that the guy had turned into a weirdo. But, I thought about it and had lunch with my friend a few days later. She's 53 and is going in for lower face surgery. 2 of her friends just had it done and they look wonderful and took over 10 years off their face. I, in no way will do this. I plan on ageing gracefully. But this obsessed look to be younger really puzzles me. I didn't think anyone would write on this thread and I've learned so much reading through it. Your all beautiful women. Smart. Happy with yourselfs. And that's what I was looking for. Thank you all!

Great post and I too, plan on aging naturally.

[Tam5115]

I just dearly miss this :mornincoffee: in the mornings!! :1187603408.CR.Mothe

I remember the days when I would drink cup after cup after cup.....

so now I feel old because my body is rejecting different things. Spicy food was about 5 years ago, at age 40 and now coffee.

Oh me too! I swear I used to live on coffee, but I can't drink much of it anymore. It will literally give me a panic attack. So I usually only have it after a big dinner. (our friday night dinners)

Let's not even talk about the acid reflux. :girl_sad:

[rockford2]

Oh me too! I swear I used to live on coffee, but I can't drink much of it anymore. It will literally give me a panic attack. So I usually only have it after a big dinner. (our friday night dinners)

Let's not even talk about the acid reflux. :girl_sad:

the coffee JUST started bothering me. What gives?? :z0tdntknw:

and coffee gives panic attacks? wow!! I never knew that. Is there a cure for this acid reflux thing?

[Tam5115]

the coffee JUST started bothering me. What gives?? :z0tdntknw:

and coffee gives panic attacks? wow!! I never knew that. Is there a cure for this acid reflux thing?


To be fair, I was diagnosed with Panic Disorder in like 1999, so that's my issue. I guess the caffeine just aggravates my condition. I hate it though, I love coffee and I'm peeved I can't drink it like I used to.

My doc just told me to use like AC for the acid reflux. That works not at all. I just chew rolaids and it sometimes works, sometimes not.

[GardenGirl]

Hubby has reflux, and takes Prilosec. Works like a charm. Try it.

Fly,
As to the young man, it's obvious he knew he was out of his league when talking to you. So much so, that he simply slinked off, unable to handle being in the presence of such greatness.
I'm 48, and will try and use your technique in the grocery store.
GG

[DIBBS]

'Olden' is always circa 15 years older than You are.

My husband is quite a bit younger than I. For almost 20 years we've ignored Age and it works well. 'They' say age will catch up with you. I say only if you stop moving.

When you see terminally ill children in the hospital, you know how blessed you are and know you are still alive for a reason. Best to find that reason and make your life count for The Good like so many of you are doing in Seeking The Missing.

Some never die
Some never live.

:happy0207:

[cogito]

Ifyou are a man...you are officially old when your prostrate takes the place of your alarm clock and you no longer care to keep up the charade of staving of the festooning ear and nose hair that has beset you of late.

[WarmNCozy]

When you have lived 1 year, you are 1 year's old, and so on and so forth. So you are OLD the day after you are no longer NEW!

As many birthdays as you get to live seems to me to be the greatest gift of living!

[WarmNCozy]

Don't trust anyone over 30.

Of course, you are not in that category, the over 30!:waitasec:

[Kara]

Well, I don't think the years lived prior to adulthood should count towards your "middle age" point. So...if we start counting at 20 and assume an average life span of 78 years....middle age would be ....uhm....never mind.